[Wren_]

But I want my t right now
badly triggered and having trouble grounding

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by tigergirl

But I want my t right now
badly triggered and having trouble grounding

I dont believe its pathetic because I do the same thing. sometimes something will get the better of me and who do I want and who do I call...my therapist. thats what they are there for and what a therapists job is all about... being there to help their clients cope with hard situations that they cant cope with alone.

suggestion give your T a call.

[CantExplain]

((TigerGirl))

There's nothing pathetic about that. I'm sure we've all felt that way.

[perseverance11]

You don't need to feel pathetic about that, it is not pathetic.

[SoupDragon]

Sorry you are missing your T right now - that is not pathetic, just reflects how helpful it is for you to be with them.

Soup

It is not pathetic at all tigergirl, I have trouble doing the same

My T is helping me learn to recognize the awful messages I tell myself (I'm stupid, I'm pathetic) with things that are more true (I'm confused, I need help).

It's okay to need help. Being triggered is awful, and sometimes in the middle of being triggered we need that safe person to remind us how to get through it.

Can you call T for help??

For me, the beginning of getting grounded is finding the smallest piece of "now" that I can. I usually start by listening for six sounds. It slows me down and makes me pay attention. Right now I can hear my son on the phone upstairs, my husband breathing, my kittens running, distant traffic, the click click of the ceiling fan, the fridge humming, the wind in the trees. It doesn't fix being triggered when I do it, but it usually slows me down enough to start to remember how to fix it.

If you can't reach T, maybe we can help you

[sconnie892]

You're not pathetic tigergirl. I felt that way the other afternoon. Out of the blue the only place I wanted to be at t's office. For me t's office has become a safe place and I find myself going there in my head quite often. It's not pathetic for us to want to be near a person who helps us.

[Wren_]

thanks everyone

calling him wasn't an option at the time

that is not pathetic, just reflects how helpful it is for you to be with them

this is why it seems pathetic in part, because i'm not sure how helpful it truly is; yet when I'm afraid or (fill in many other emotions) he is who I wish I could be with. It feels safer

nightsky i like the six sound idea, thanks

[rainbow8]

I get you about feeling pathetic. Don't you know "pathetic" is my middle name? Seriously, when something goes wrong I think of my T first. That doesn't mean you're pathetic at all.

nightsky gave you good tips about grounding.

[Anne2.0]

I don't think it's ever pathetic to acknowledge how bad you feel. The people I feel sorry for (as opposed to feeling empathy for) are those who "keep a stiff upper lip" and are always so stoic that they can't touch their painful stuff with a five foot pole.

There are only a few things I know for sure, and one of them (I'm channeling Dorothy Allison here) is that if you don't deal with your painful stuff it will come back to kick you in the teeth.

It seems backasswards, but you are taking a step forward in acknowledging that you are hurting-- to yourself, and to the board here. That is definitely not pathetic.