[taylor43]

Hi sorry for not keeping you all up to date on me. I have let my depression get to me so next week im seeing my gp and see about going on meds to help me calm down.My anxiety has been very bad.

two months ago me and my husband moved to a house with another lady and her son. We live on seperate levles Me and husband upstairs and thm downstairs. We only share the main kitchen.

I and my husband have been 2 months sober, both feel good the marriage is better and we both are getting to know each other better and we do not fight anymore. This is the only good thing in my life right now.

The lady downstairs has been nothing but a pain in the @@@ towards me, everything i do is wrong. I contantsly get yelled at and basically making life tough. My husband knows right now we both are trying to ingore it. I am crying allot very scared and i know when i see my counsellor tommrow im afraid i will be put in the pyschward. I hate where my thoughts are .

Therapy is going good lots of hard work, i see my counsellor every week and my pyschologist every 3 weeks with phone calls if i need it.My support has been very good for me. Also every Thurs i go to group it helps me to know im not alone in my struggles day to day.

Sorry for the long update i may vent to you all since the holidays are fast approaching, im really scared about it. I lost a good family friend this year to cancer so im crying lots.

taylor, I'm so sorry things are not going better. Is it possible to just stay upstairs and avoid the woman with you share the house? Have your husband go to the kitchen for you?

[taylor43]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

taylor, I'm so sorry things are not going better. Is it possible to just stay upstairs and avoid the woman with you share the house? Have your husband go to the kitchen for you?

I do my best to avoid her, she does come upstairs makes me sometimes fustarted especially now shes invading my privacy. I literally feel a prisoner in my space of the house. I stay in the office when my husband is at work and when things get bad (She yells at me) I phon my husband. Still i never know from day to day what this person is going to do.This past weekend she kept to herself probably bcause my husband had the weekend off work.

Today as my husband left she comes upstais acts as if she owns the freaking upstairs. I do speak up however im not in a good place emotionally. My husband is going to have to tell her if she cant respect our space then get the heck out. My husband and this lady have a history together. This move was a bad ideah.

Im sorry to spill my guts out. I just feel really violated from this lady and what makes it worse is she is using my huband for money she works and is not helping pay her half. Also pay for the food. So this lady and her son are basically living here for free. This really makes me mad. They both work.

As far as im concerned she can go live somewhere else, im so sick and tired of it.

[Miswimmy1]

If your husband and her have a history, can you have him talk to her about it? It really sounds like something has to be done ASAP, as it is NOT ok for her to invade your space like that. She sounds verbally abusive too and that also is not ok. Im sry that you are in such a tough situation

Is there a way to put a lock on the door between the two spaces? Or is there not a door? Definitely, your husband needs to speak up and tell her to stay out.

[taylor43]

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

If your husband and her have a history, can you have him talk to her about it? It really sounds like something has to be done ASAP, as it is NOT ok for her to invade your space like that. She sounds verbally abusive too and that also is not ok. Im sry that you are in such a tough situation

I know my husband has no feelings for her we talked before the move. So that part of it im sure i not an issue. I do think he needs to tell her to not depend on him financially. Also he needs to let her know the boundaries of the house her space is hers, ours are ours.

She is verbablly abusive and so much of a control freak. I feel like im going crazy here. Im just so fustrated.

[taylor43]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

Is there a way to put a lock on the door between the two spaces? Or is there not a door? Definitely, your husband needs to speak up and tell her to stay out.

There is a door and a lock between stairs, that is a good option im going to talk to my husband about it. Also im thinking the lanlord could do a kitchen net down stairs for them. Thankyou and if she ever again yells at me for no good reason she may not be able to get upstairs. My safety comes first,i was so abused til i met my husband two years ago so my ptsd is really acting up right now.

[Wren_]

hi taylor, thanks for the update on what is going on with you that's great news about therapy going well and being sober for you and your husband. living arrangments sound so difficult though is there any possibility of the lady and her son leaving? or of you finding another place to live if not?