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#1
Dec 11, 2012, 03:46 PM
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T has asked m to write some thoughts on what I'm feeling towards my parents. They gave me enough materialistic things, but weren't there emotionally.
I don't know where to start. But I now have a void I'm trying to fill with anything and cling on to anyone that'll show me some love. I could try patch up the relationship with my parents, but it's like the ship has saiLed. Not sure what to put on paper
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Dec 11, 2012, 03:53 PM
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This sounds like a good start, actually. I don't know if that helps, but it does describe what you are feeling....  and quite well actually
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Dec 11, 2012, 04:34 PM
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Hmmm.. I was brought up a similar way.
These are my thoughts: -Guilt. I felt for a long time guilty for being angry that my inner / emotional needs were not met because I had everything I needed. Great vacations, food, holidays. This made me feel ashamed because I felt like that was what was important. It's what I learned mattered. My emotions didn't. So I had to hide them. -Hiding emotions is something I have become good at for fear that if I did show emotions to others I will be rejected and abandoned. Emotions are unsafe, they are scary, and others will not understand nor meet my emotional needs. Therefore, it's difficult to get close in a real way. Not sure if this will help! Just a few thoughts. Good luck! |
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Dec 11, 2012, 04:37 PM
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What do emotions mean to you now?
How did you express emotions when you were a child? How were they handled by your parents and how did you get your emotional needs met? |
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Dec 11, 2012, 05:29 PM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Dec 11, 2012, 06:39 PM
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I''ve been dealing with this for forever. Today I was talking to my T about whether or not (not!) I would be going "home" for Xmas esp in response to a recent letter from my mother asking me to. It's always, "Do this one thing for me, then you can do whatever you want after, or later." But there is no such thing as later, there is only now. As adults, my parents must have known this - they fooled the child me. It got to be a bad habit. Just this once. Not the way to raise kids. Hope this helps you with your list.
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Dec 11, 2012, 06:45 PM
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Good for you hankster I am proud of you!
  
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Dec 12, 2012, 03:37 AM
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Thanks everyone!
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"I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
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Dec 15, 2012, 12:09 PM
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I had to see my parents on Thursday for my birthday,and things went well. But it was still very cold. There just was no connection. And it hurts me
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"I'd rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed. Robert H. Schuller" Current dx: Bipolar Disorder Unspecified Current Meds: Epitec (Lamotrigine) 300mg, Solian 50mg, Seroquel 25mg PRN, Metformin 500mg, Klonopin prn |
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Dec 15, 2012, 03:10 PM
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I had a similar experience recently with my parents. It is sad. We have to work on our life with the way things are.
There are other opportunities in life with other people who we can build close relationships with.
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