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#26
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No, I cannot. But even if I did, misguided effort does a client no good. I would rather her just tell me she remembers nothing than do it badly.
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Nevertheless, I do feel sorry for her. I feel sorry for you too. That's just the way I feel.
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Back on point or at least closer - One time the woman asked about a trip I had taken the week before, and when she, after only one mis-try, did get the city where I had gone correct - she gave a whoop of joy and pumped her fist. I thought it was a bit over the top, but it did make her quite happy with herself. |
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To poke the bear a bit, I wonder if remembering random things falls on the side of relationship building. To me it does. It's spontaneous by definition. In this book I'm reading, they bring up this very point! Either the r/s with T matters, or T's technique matters, in which case the client is reduced to a kind of case and Ts are interchangeable. Any T can give the correct interventions and interpretations - but I don't think that's true. The law might be like that, but psychology is a different field, as is philosophy. They might be related, but they have different views or goals. Oh, the book is the psychotherapy of the quiet borderline patient.
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I have started back up with the same T that I had 10 years ago. She remembered an incident that occurred back then, that she hadn't written down, (because it was a silly thing I did and said) and she said, "weren't you the one that...." when we were having a light conversation. I was amazed that she remembered from so long ago, especially with all the clients she has. It makes me smile still
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My T doesn't remember anything...ever, but that's okay with me, cuz I don't either!
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The other one I see remembers some things I have said about my past. She does not remember about my present life, like if I was going out of town or something. |
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I'm not certain that we can know whether or not interpretations are correct or incorrect at the time we hear them. Our perspective then is in the midst, not having the benefit of hindsight. We can certainly feel that they ring true or not, or agree or disagree with them; but I don't think we can assess their accuracy--or truth.
One of the challenges for Ts is the timing of interpretations to coincide with the readiness of the client to accept them. And occasionally, I guess a T floats an interpretation to test for readiness. But a too early interpretation may be accurate, yet be of no use to the client at that time. It's a tricky business. Last edited by feralkittymom; Jan 15, 2013 at 11:52 PM. Reason: addition |
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