[CantExplain]

I'm not sure if I dare to ask her.

[stopdog]

I cannot imagine why the client would want one would do so. What would be the point?
If I was dying, I don't think I would be thinking about the therapist.
How far gone are we talking here? Like the client was in hospice or a coma or just if you were told you had a fatal disease?

I actually think they both would do it. I just can't imagine wanting it.

[precious things]

I've had these thoughts before. To me, it sounds like the death you want her to witness is the mental suffering you are going through. You want her to care, simply put. Maybe what you really want is the assurance that she does care for you and would be there in your darkest hour, no?

I think that my T would come, depending on where I was. He was the therapist for my father in law prior to his death, and he came to my in-law's home and did in home sessions when my father in law was still cognizant of what was happening.

I believe he would, If I asked him to.
Why such a dark question CE?

[shlump]

I know my T would come.

[Perna]

What is the real question you are afraid of asking, that you couch it so?

[QuietCat]

T's are supposed to be there for you in difficult emotional times. Dying is very emotional so I would think T would come see you in that case.

[likelife]

I've had similar thoughts. When I'm in a space of believing my T doesn't really care, I tell myself that she wouldn't.

[Nightlight]

I'm not sure if mine would. Probably not? She has gone a bit boundary crazy lately. I suppose she might try and arrange a phone call or something. The reason I'd want her to is because she's the first person I've felt connected to, attached to, and all the rest. She means a lot to me and that would be a time to hold onto the precious things you're lucky enough to have in your life. I'd just want to see her so I could say thanks, you mean heaps to me, you made my life better, and goodbye.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by precious things

I've had these thoughts before. To me, it sounds like the death you want her to witness is the mental suffering you are going through. You want her to care, simply put. Maybe what you really want is the assurance that she does care for you and would be there in your darkest hour, no?

That's about it.

They say the subconscious knows nothing about death, and fear of death is actually fear of something else, like abandonment.

If T were there, at least I wouldn't be abandoned.

I don't believe my xT would come see me if I were dying. I'm sure if I were not well enough to come to the office then that would be the end of session. My current T I don't know well enough to say.

[0w6c379]

Originally Posted by precious things

I've had these thoughts before. To me, it sounds like the death you want her to witness is the mental suffering you are going through. You want her to care, simply put. Maybe what you really want is the assurance that she does care for you and would be there in your darkest hour, no?

I've thought of this too. I like your thoughts Precious Things. I would ask my T to come because he is one of the few people that I would want to see. Assurance of his loyalty and concern for me would make the passing a little easier. I'd want to see his smile before I go. I think he would come if he had the time.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

I think that my T would come, depending on where I was. He was the therapist for my father in law prior to his death, and he came to my in-law's home and did in home sessions when my father in law was still cognizant of what was happening.

This is so unbelievably sad that I can't comprehend it.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

I believe he would, If I asked him to.
Why such a dark question CE?

Good question, Lola.
I guess I'm asking, "How much do you love me, T?"

Which goes to show how insecure I'm feeling at the moment.

Wow. Tough question. I have never thought about this before. Re: T, or anyone else for that matter. I don't know if I can even begin to fathom how I would actually feel. Deep subject dude.

I have thought of this exact question, as a matter of fact, and I am pretty sure he wouldn't.

[scorpiosis37]

I think she would come. I believe her care is genuine and i think that, within reason, she would honor special requests and/or accommodate special circumstances. If I were in the hospital dying or something I can't imagine her saying "no, I will not come, but i hope you have a great death." Okay, that sounds totally morbid, but you get the point. When I was having health problems earlier this year, she got teary-eyed and I could feel her concern; I can only imagine she would be similarly emotional if I were truly on the brink.

[TheRealFDeal]

That is a really tough question for me to contemplate right now. A year ago I might've said yes, but now I'm not really sure. He's been really stressing the boundaries as well. It's why he has terminated me. And the two T's I've interviewed in the last two weeks have even tighter boundaries. I've gotten the distinct impression from them that they don't have to like or care about me in order to treat me. So, I don't know if it's something one can reasonably expect or not.

[Yoda]

I wouldn't want my T to visit me when I was dying unless there was an issue she could help me solve, such as something to help my son build support and advice for him on what to do with his inheritance (my farm, I have spent most of my IRA).

[murray]

I have also thought about this on occasion, as well as wondering if he'd visit me in the hospital if I was badly injured or sick (not just on my death bed). I do believe that he would visit me, he is a very caring T and has done a number of things for me and other clients that are not typical but that have greatly helped. So I suspect that this is something that he would do...I would hope.

[rainbow8]

My T would definitely come. I just know it! I've thought of it because then I'd get to hold her hand again, and it would comfort me. Her presence is comforting to me, or if not, she'd help me to relax. She's like a pacifier to me, but I know, all babies have to get weaned off the pacifier. She visited someone else at home. I know because one of the times I got upset when I didn't know where she was going, and I asked her, she said she was visiting someone at home.

[sconnie892]

I have also this thought, but more along the lines if I were sick or injured and in the hospital. I don't know the answer. I would certainly welcome t if she visited, but I would not expect her to do so.

[Fixated]

I too have wondered this a lot. Never really if she would visit if I were dying, but would she come to my funeral? Would she come see me for a session if I were in the hospital and had been seriously injured? When I was sui last year, I wondered sometimes what lengths she would go to if I ever texted her that I was about to do something. Like would she come to me or just call my family/cops to figure out where I was/retrieve me?

In the end, I don't think she would do any of those things. I used to think so, but that was back when I incorrectly thought I was some sort of special client to her.

She might go to my funeral....maybe. idk. I feel like I should find a way to ask her.

[TheRealFDeal]

I told my T about this post tonite in our session. He said he would visit. So I got my answer without having to directly ask. Small comfort, though, since this was our last session.