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#26
Mar 08, 2013, 09:48 AM
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My T said she can't ever take the human side out of a relationship with a client. It's human nature to be affected by their story, their hurt, their trauma. What she does is allow herself to let go of responsibility for their life. She can only do what she can - the rest is down to the client. She could be seeing someone for two years who one day doesn't come back. She will have feelings about this but she trusts that the client is dealing with their stuff is best they are able at that time. This does require a degree of detachment, but not in the way the word suggests. It is more a letting go and allowing the client to be free. That actually takes love and respect, both for self and for the client.
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Mar 09, 2013, 09:22 PM
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Mar 10, 2013, 04:30 AM
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#29
Mar 10, 2013, 01:36 PM
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Mar 10, 2013, 02:02 PM
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I think it's healthy to the extent that the goal and vision is to improve oneself or heal from whatever it is that needs healing. There may be some bumps, transference issues, ruptures, etc.. along the way but if growth and change are occurring,then it's better than being invested in ones misery.
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Mar 18, 2013, 03:39 PM
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I was probably over-invested. So I made progress, but it hurt more than strictly necessary.
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Mar 18, 2013, 04:39 PM
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My T said today he sees himself as a kind of a "consultant" that helps the client do his or her work themself that needs to be done...so I guess as more of a guide?
Besides being supportive when my last T terminated with me out of nowhere, he hasn't done much of anything for me in 2.5 years. So besides feeling frustrated about time wasted and needing to find a psychodynamic T (that is what works for me), I don't feel attached to him at all. So I guess it's possible to see a therapist and not become invested, but to DO therapy and not become invested? I highly doubt it...at least in my experience. |
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Mar 24, 2013, 08:28 PM
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 But he's been so important to me, and been part of some very important stuff for me, that I hate the idea of him riding off into the sunset - or rather, me riding off into the sunset. Either way, it's over.I struggle with this,but never thought to bring it up. I just figured I'd cope when it came. I think I will ask about this next week. |
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