Therapist Got a Job Offer Somewhere Else

I know you are hurting, but she has to make choices that are best for herself and her family. It is not that she wants to hurt you, but she has to do what's right for her. It's not that you're not worthy of being helped, or that she doesn't care about helping you. But in part her job is to help you so that you can leave her and go form other attachments, therapeutic or not.

I'm sure she would have preferred to have a proper termination with you, where you left because you'd done what you'd come to do. Or she wishes that she had more time to spend with you to make the transition easier. But it's not about you, it's about her. And while is it perfectly okay for you to have whatever feelings you have related to it, I think you need to work towards the place where you can see that this is what she needs to do for her.

And you can honor yourself and your healing, and your work with her, by taking a referral or seeking another T to continue what it is you need to do for yourself.

I can understand your feelings. I wish your T hadn't had to leave abruptly and you would have had time to process it with her. I'm imagining how awful I would feel if my T did that to me. I'd be miserable and would cry and cry. But, as Anne posted, it's not that she DID IT TO YOU. Her decision had nothing to do with you. Ah, that's where it hurts! I'm still working on it. T's decisions about their lives usually have nothing to do with us. But it doesn't mean they aren't 100% devoted to us when they see us for T. It doesn't take away from the healing work you did as a partner with your T. You may not be able to see that now. It's too soon, but I think eventually you will.

Will you be able to have any contact with her at all? Maybe she could recommend another T? When I suddenly quit a T, I saw someone else and spent a lot of time grieving the loss of the first one. It's a loss and grieiving is what you need to do. Crying is normal for any loss of someone we were close to. I'm sorry for your loss.

I wont be seeing another T. I will not allow such a relationship to ever be formed again in my life.
I know my limitations.
Mutual vulnerability or nothing.

Always your choice. You might have posted about one or two other things that you were at first insistent you would not do and then opened yourself up to the possibility, then were glad you did.

Just saying that you can choose to remain open to the possibility, so that you can make another choice if you want.

((((Live)))))
I can't stop thinking how ungodly painful this must be for you. I am concerned about you, and I want you to be safe. I understand your feelings, you have been really hurt by someone you trust, and her intentions aren't going to matter in respect to your emotions, because your emotions about being abandoned originated a long time ago. I can't imagine that you would feel any other way than to shut out the idea of having another therapist again. It took me a month to start searching for a therapist after my termination. He has really helped me work through the termination and is a really good fit, and I am starting to feel better. I know you don't plan on seeing a T, but I wanted to mention this possibility for you, even if it is ten years down the road. If it is not, that is okay, too.

Throw ALL of your emotions into your paintings. Share some of them here This could be the impetus for you to do your work to rival Michelangelo. I suspect Michelangelo didn't have a therapist that left, so with this knowledge, I think you can out-do him. I KNOW you can Don't forget us here at PC, though Know that you are in my thoughts. Sending you tons of hugs to keep you safe. Please keep posting.

I am really sorry that this has happened to you

I guess it's just too soon to make any choices at all.
I just need to feel right now.

There you go, becoming a little more open. And you're very right, I think, that you don't need to make any choices, or foreclose any options, right now.