[WePow]

This is a poll about trust.... a big issue in therapy!

[Nelliecat]

Currently, no

[stopdog]

It depends on with what. I generally trust the woman will be at the appointment, the time limit will be observed, she will not physically come into my space, the fee is stable and once I leave she will not contact me unless it is about the appointment schedule.

[MonroeTree]

I'm getting ready to trust my T with my deepest and darkest secrets on Wednesday. I'm really scared, but I feel like I'm ready to tell her.

[precious things]

I would put myself down for "striving to get there"...

[taylor43]

Im trying but right now im feeling so low. I do not want to go in a pyschward, but if i have to i will go. Feeling very vunderble.

[tinyrabbit]

I put I trust that he will do the best he can but will sometimes fail, which I think is the most you can trust anyone - he's a human being, he will get it wrong sometimes.

What matters to me is not whether he fails, but how he deals with that.

[sconnie892]

I did until my last session

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by WePow

This is a poll about trust.... a big issue in therapy!

yes I totally trust my therapist...I believe trust in a client therapist relationship goes both ways...in order for a therapist to be trustworthy the client must also be trustworthy...

example

what if I dont tell my therapist things, or only tell her part of the situation...without the whole issue how can the therapist do whats right for/by me, how can my therapist show me she can be trusted if I hid the information that she may need to help me...

situation...abused as a child, that causes me to have issues today like nightmares, flashbacks, trust issues, relationship issues, work issues,....

therapy session...

therapist... how are you?
client....(thinking I cant trust this person) says ok, still having those picture things in my head.
therapist (thinking that doesnt give me much to go on) what kind of pictures?
client ...(thinking. I dont trust you so Im not going to tell her) just pictures of things from the past
Therapist..(pictures from the past ...that can be a hallucination, delusion, flashback, imagination...lets see if this client is willing to go further on this) can you give me a bit more about this?
client (thinking heck no, you....) they are just pictures from when I was a kid things that happened to me.
therapist..(not knowing the whole story all I can go on is guessing) what kind of medications are you on?
client - Abilify.
therapist(ahhh so this person has depression and possible psychotic symptoms like hallucinations, delusions so the "pictures" are probably hallucinations/ delusional thoughts.)

now same situation with a client who is showing their therapist they can be trusted...

Therapist...how are you doing today?
client...not so good, I keep having these picture thingys happening.
therapist..(thinking thats not much to go on) what kind of pictures?
client ..(thinking oh crap why did I tell her the truth, I dont want to talk about this) do we really need to talk about this?
therapist..I cant help you if you dont talk to me. I understand its hard to talk about this kind of stuff but thats the only way I can help you, I cant read your mid so you need to tell me whats on your mind.
Client...taking a deep breath..ok its about when I was sexually abused. its like one minute I'm fine and the next its like its happening all over again, its so scarey.
Therapist...(ahhh shes having flashbacks) whats happening is called having a flashback. its your minds way of processing what happened to you. we can approach this in a few different ways, ....

in the first situation my therapist went the completely wrong direction based on my with holding information and thought I was having a psychotic event and needed my medications changed and referred me to my psychiatrist.

in the second situation my therapist knew what was going on, came to the correct idea of what was happening based on my being trustworthy (telling her everything without hiding things from her) and was able to help me through it with the correct treatment options which helped to end my flashbacks.

the client therapist relationship is a two way street, one cant be trustworthy and help if the other is not trustworthy.

[Asiablue]

Mine is still very new to me so there's not a lot of trust there but i get the feeling i will grow to trust her with time.

[content30]

I trust my current T implicitly. She is the first and only T that I have trusted this much. Perhaps that is why she has been able to help me so much and far more than any other T has helped me...or perhaps I trust her because she has helped me so much? It is definitely correlated; I'm just not sure how....

[rainbow8]

I trust my T totally! I never trusted any T like I trust her!! It didn't come all at once; I keep building on it. I'm talking about trust in telling her whatever I feel with out censoring anything. Nothing is TMI. It's what I need. to get all that stuff out of me.

Sometimes I don't trust her 100% because she changed the rules even though she told me she never would. But she did that, as someone told me, because she learned more about what would be best for me. She also told me that herself. So, I don't trust that she won't, for example, make it a rule that I can't email her, or we can't hug anymore. But if she does, it's not really about trust. It's about her learning more about what is good for me, and what isn't.

[Victoria'smom]

Trust and human error is to completely different things to me. She has shown me time and time again that she's there whether she comfortable being there or not.

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

Trust and human error is to completely different things to me.

Totally agree.

I sort of think the poll asks the wrong question, because surely the question isn't whether they may fail you sometimes, but whether you trust them to try to get it right and care when they don't?

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

, but whether you trust them to try to get it right and care when they don't?

If this is the real question, then my answer is a simple no. It has not been my experience of the therapist.

[murray]

Honestly I am not sure. I think that I do trust my T very much and don't ever think that trust is an issue for me. But, whenever I am convinced he must hate me, be disgusted with me, want to terminate with me,etc, which happens periodically,.....I have been told that is me not trusting T....so I don't know????

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by murray

Honestly I am not sure. I think that I do trust my T very much and don't ever think that trust is an issue for me. But, whenever I am convinced he must hate me, be disgusted with me, want to terminate with me,etc, which happens periodically,.....I have been told that is me not trusting T....so I don't know????

i don't think that's you not trusting your T. I think it's the way you feel about yourself, because of things that have happened to you. I have the exact same feelings and it's because of me, not my T.

[archipelago]

I totally trust my therapist. And that means that at times we've had conflict, and he has even made mistakes, but he was honest with me about them and that just strengthened the relationship.

I have had major issues with trust. With PTSD I have a weak sense of what is known as "basic trust," that is, that the world is safe and fair. My experience just tells me that this is not true, though I hope one day that I have more positive experiences that address the question.

On the other hand, because of fundamental needs, I tend to trust too much before it is actually safe to do so. That has resulted in getting betrayed or even seriously harmed. And it is a pattern that I am still working on.

The difference with my relationship to my therapist is that neither of these problems come up to interfere with real understanding. That experience itself is healing. If I can take that in and try to let it help me heal other parts of my life, I think that is how trust toward the world again and to others will be re-established.

[murray]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

i don't think that's you not trusting your T. I think it's the way you feel about yourself, because of things that have happened to you. I have the exact same feelings and it's because of me, not my T.

Thanks. I always thought it was just part of my usual self loathing but I thought I heard/read(can't recall) that it was a sign of not trusting T. So confusing

[JayneJohnson49]

I trust T and even in the beginning trust wasn't an issue for me. I mean, I trusted she would be confidential, create a safe space, have my best interests in mind and work with me in ways I was comfortable with while also pushing me. Do I always like her, NO, but do I trust she genuinely has my mental care as a concern, YES. It took me a solid six months to be comfortable opening up at all but it wasn't distrust with T as much as trusting myself I'm okay and words will not harm me.

This is my second experience in therapy but the first only lasted three sessions as I wasn't ready and the T was hippy. So I have little experience to compare this to but similar to iota what's strengthened our relationship is the ability for each to take responsibility of mistakes. I haven't experienced this before where the person making the apology didn't want something in return. A few times it was apparent what she said was way off mark or impacted me and even if a few sessions passed she brought up the instance and said her part. I was very impressed with that integrity and relational trust was hands down impacted.

I went for this...... I don't trust T much, but I am learning how to trust


Plus My T at times is pushy and I have only had 4 sessions she wants me to talk about deep trauma stuff I don't think she quite understands that I find it hard to trust.

[archipelago]

Buttercup, I understand your reluctance to trust and that is totally reasonable. I'm afraid to be honest, but I feel I have to be. A therapist shouldn't try to push you into deep trauma after only 4 sessions. Sorry to say so, but you have to build up the relationship before anything of the kind takes place. And that's not my opinion. It's based on clinical literature about all sorts of therapy, especially that dealing with trauma. A phase of learning some emotional regulation skills along with building the relationship always has to occur before any approach to traumatic material. I don't know what to recommend to you, but I think this has to be slowed down or you need to be referred out to someone who can take a different approach if you don't feel comfortable and feel "pushed."

[clash]

Of he our she works for the system then NO NEVER

[clash]

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[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by Buttercup..

I went for this...... I don't trust T much, but I am learning how to trust


Plus My T at times is pushy and I have only had 4 sessions she wants me to talk about deep trauma stuff I don't think she quite understands that I find it hard to trust.

I agree with the previous poster - that is way too soon.