I can't take any more

remember, that person is not all T's, and in fact I can't think of any T who would want her to represent all T's, can you?

So, try to let that trust issue be tied only to her. She was untrustworthy. No doubt about it. As you read here and think of how many T's there are out in the world, it becomes obvious that she was an exception, and not the norm.

You are free to trust again. You still trust people around you, and you seem to trust people here on PC - there are trustworthy people out there and you already trust those whom you can see have proven to be trustworthy. Of course it will take some time and help, because you have been wounded very deeply. But try to keep your mind open to the idea that you can trust again, even if it can't be right now. Give that option to yourself, because you deserve it!

She lost her license because some board decided it was the right thing to do. Not just because you did something.

So she's saying that you filing a complaint cost her her license? Hmmm. That's curious thinking, especially for a therapist - transferring blame for actions. You have no authority to make any decisions regarding her license. You only have authority to speak for yourself, which is all you did.

Silenthill I have followed your story from the beginning(I think) but have been at a loss for words. Just know I am proud of how you stood up for yourself. Your exT isn't worth the energy of typing anything about her. Although if I ever met her and knew it...I have some choice words for her. She definitely abused your trust... Take your time and heal. Maybe sometime you will find the strength to find a trustworthy T but it doesn't have to be right away.

Exactly. And the board decided it was the right thing to do because she is a abuser and a fraud. Your role was simply to bring her actions -- HER actions -- to the light of day. I have so much respect for you, for doing that.

As far as I understand the ethics and laws, the therapist has to have not only permission from the client in terms of some sort of informal agreement, but also a signed informed consent document to allow such things to happen, especially when it is made public and in your situation is not entirely anonymous. I don't want to advise you though, especially about legal things because I've seen so many people get stuck there.

There are ways of reporting this that don't involve a specific individual law suit, like whatever overseeing organization for her particular license could be notified and then she would be investigated. There are also "watchdog" organizations that are available to intervene along the same lines.

Confidentiality is such a strongly upheld principle in almost every form of mental health professional that you are really only allowed to break it if the person is a danger to themselves or others, or somehow how considered gravely disabled. And those exceptions are really about protections of self and others, not about confidentiality per se.

Even when a therapist needs outside consultation, they have to get the client's permission to discuss the case, including when the client asks for consultation. Even in my own situation which is relatively relaxed in terms of formalities, any time there has been anyone else involved in my situation, I have been duly informed, asked for permission, and sometimes have had to actually sign things to make it official.

That is not to say that sometimes my therapist will occasionally bring up a case that relates to me. I'm absolutely certain that in almost every situation he has either gotten full permission or is disguising it in such vague terms that he is just using it to help me see something. And at times I have asked and he's told me that with certain people he's gotten full permission to use their stories to help others.

But if that isn't the case here, I would do something about it. Make it come down if you don't want it out there. It's an invasion of privacy as well as an ethical violation.