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Apr 18, 2013, 04:01 PM
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I saw a new t back in March, and I haven't seen her since. Mainly b/c I forgot about my appt, then rescheduled to this saturday, but now we're going away, so I rescheduled for May 4th. I'm not really sure I should even go. Everything is pretty much in check. I'm having some marital issues, but they only last a couple hours at a time, until my husband calms down, from the rages he gets in. There's nothing I can really do about that, it's him that needs to work on that. We put the whole baby thing on hold, which kinda bummed me out, but I'm not depressed about it. It'll happen eventually. I'm kinda glad we put it on hold, b/c I want my husband to work on his rage issues, b/c there's no sense in having a kid if you're just going to yell at it and possibly do worse things to it. Cause I know kids can be damn trying at some points. I was. There's not much sense in marriage counseling either b/c we don't really fight. He just gets mad about something stupid, yells at me, I yell back, then we sit in silence for a few hours, and then everything is ok. It doesn't happen often. Work is going fine. Pretty low stress job.
Since I've went back on my meds, I've felt fine. Anxiety and obsessive thoughts have went away, which is what i was supposed to work on in therapy. So I guess I don't see the point in going. I just feel weird not going back and only seeing a t one time. Like, by seeing her 1 time i've been entered in this contact that i need to see her for years or something like i've seen all the rest of my t's. I'm pretty sure it will be ok though. |
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#2
Apr 18, 2013, 04:42 PM
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Well just my thought if you are not sure if you should go back then you probably should. Therapy you don't need is better than no therapy that you do need.
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Apr 18, 2013, 10:22 PM
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And even if it isn't, you can go to counselling without fighting.
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Apr 19, 2013, 09:39 AM
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The best time to go to T is when you're stable. That's when they see the real you and not an upswing or down swing. You're able to give your all and build trust so when things do hit the fan the t can help you.
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Apr 19, 2013, 10:07 AM
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If you haven't been going long/regularly and don't want to go now, I would not go to a seemingly random appointment that has no purpose.
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Apr 19, 2013, 10:28 AM
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Yeah. I'm not going to go. I'm gonna cancel the appt. |
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Apr 19, 2013, 05:49 PM
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I know for me it took a while for me to get the courage to make the first appt....
Did you make the original appt on a whim? If not, then you probably need to keep going. IMO, if your H won't go for counseling himself or to MC with you then you could go to counseling yourself and work on boundaries to learn how to deal with your H's rage issues. It might be his issue but you are impacted by it. |
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Apr 20, 2013, 01:02 AM
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I am amused and perhaps a little alarmed the way you track "giving up smoking" and "marriage" in the same way.
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Apr 20, 2013, 03:28 PM
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I don't understand why you had to put this in the damn post, you could've just written it on my profile. This was not the place to do it. |
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Apr 20, 2013, 03:31 PM
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I've been in and out of therapy for the past 13 years, so I know what to do, I just need to apply what I know. I did IOP in total 10 weeks i think, so it's not like I don't know the material. :P |
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Apr 20, 2013, 09:56 PM
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It was never my intention. I'm just a clumsy goof.
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Apr 20, 2013, 10:30 PM
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Apr 20, 2013, 11:07 PM
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From my understanding, sometimes when one is feeling more stable, one can work on things deeper in therapy rather than just sort of putting out brush fires. So just feeling like the meds are working on a specific thing like anxiety, does not necessarily preclude therapy being useful in other areas, like anger or fighting, or even the one that is more stable with the drugs. Some therapists I have read about consider the stabilization just the beginning.
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