[1stepatatime]

Hello all...
I don't know about all of you but I get worn OUT simply from my mind...it just wont quit!! Perhaps some of you can help me out...my therapy feels safe to me and I like my T. It has taken about three months but I am finally realizing that I am safe in that room and can( hopefully) begin to do the real work. I am leaving for a week vacation tomorrow...I will miss my weekly session. Since yesterday this began to REALLY bother me. I almost feel lost, what the....?!? I emailed my T explaining that I feel bad about this and that it almost makes me feel homesick...she wrote me a quick reply stating that it is part of the process and she will explain it to me when we meet next time. So why don't I feel better?? I hate to admit it but it makes me feel so needy, like a loser. I wish I would have known these emotions were going to kick in during my last session so maybe she could have given me some insight and some strategies to help me to cope. I am realizing that I have become dependent upon her...I know about transference but is that what this is? I don't have romantic feelings ( yet... ; ) but I do feel like she is an integral part of my life now. How do I not let this interfere with my vacation?
Thank you...and by the way, you guys rock...I read the advice, the insight, your experiences...really awesome!!

[Syra]

I don't know why this happens, but it sounds pretty common.

I wonder if it would help for you to go off by yourself at your regular time and have a meeting with her in your mind. You supply your part,and then you supply her part. I know it wouldn't be the same. Or take the time to draw a picture for her, or do a sand tray therapy with yourself to show her.

I don't know what made me think of these. Part of me thinks it sounds really stupid, and perhaps insulting and minimizing. Part of me is thinking "I'm going to try that," - it feels like it has possibilities. Have to admit I haven't tried it. Never thought of that before.

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by Syra

I don't know why this happens, but it sounds pretty common.

I wonder if it would help for you to go off by yourself at your regular time and have a meeting with her in your mind. You supply your part,and then you supply her part. I know it wouldn't be the same. Or take the time to draw a picture for her, or do a sand tray therapy with yourself to show her.

I don't know what made me think of these. Part of me thinks it sounds really stupid, and perhaps insulting and minimizing. Part of me is thinking "I'm going to try that," - it feels like it has possibilities. Have to admit I haven't tried it. Never thought of that before.

Thanks, Syra
I think that you have some good ideas there...who knows? It may help! : ) Pardon my ignorance but what is a sand tray therapy? I have heard of it but am not familiar with it... thanks again : )

[Syra]

Originally Posted by 1stepatatime

Thanks, Syra
I think that you have some good ideas there...who knows? It may help! : ) Pardon my ignorance but what is a sand tray therapy? I have heard of it but am not familiar with it... thanks again : )

I've never done sand tray therapy. Some people here talk about it and it sounds very cool. I'm starting to read about it.
Sand Tray Therapy
It sounds like it fits easily with Internal Family System, which I've found very helpful.
About Internal Family Systems

[1stepatatime]

Originally Posted by Syra

I've never done sand tray therapy. Some people here talk about it and it sounds very cool. I'm starting to read about it.
Sand Tray Therapy
It sounds like it fits easily with Internal Family System, which I've found very helpful.
About Internal Family Systems

http://forums.psych
Hello, Syra
Thanks again for the link regarding Sand Tray Therapy...that seems really cool...maybe something that I can do while I am here on vacation. That is what I love about this forum...everyone shares their knowledge with others...it is helpful, thank you!

I did sand play therapy with my t when I still saw her in person. It was always revealing for me - not always immediately, but sometimes it was later when I was writing up my notes about our session or sometimes it would come out in a dream. In fact the sand play was so beneficial to me in t's office that after she moved and we went to phone sessions, I made my own sand tray at home and am slowly adding miniatures to use in it. It's so worth trying - I find it very relaxing at a minimum sometimes a sand tray I've done will spark a deep period of work with t.