[Danielle74]

...it makes me feel like he doesn't want to be there talking to me. Body language wise it is supposed to mean that the person is uncomfortable or doesn't want to be there. I don't think that I'm an unpleasant patient..lol. At some point, mid session, both of his feet are directly pointed at me, which makes me feel a bit better. He always seems friendly, and we smile and chat afterwards. But still, our sessions always begin with his feet pointed toward the door. It makes me self conscious..lol.

Anyone else experience this?

[Raging Quiet]

I don't think I've experienced this.

What way do your feet point in sessions? Usually T's mirror our own body language..

[stopdog]

I don't notice how the woman sits. I think some sitting postures may be just how a person is comfortable, with no relation to a bigger idea at all. If it is bothersome, one could inquire.

[lemon80s]

I know some about body language, but what I know mostly is that it always depends on the context. When a person has his arms folded infront of his chest this could be a sign of wanting to protect himself from the conversation. But without the context we don't know. How are his feet? Does he nod and actively engage in the conversation? Maybe this is his favorite way to sit and has nothing to do with the -current- situation. Maybe he is cold.

So, I would not try and judge your T's involvement based on one part of his body language. I do think that you noticing this and worrying over it to the point of making a post about it is enough reason to talk to him. You feel that he is not engaged in your therapy it seems, so that is something you should discuss.

[anilam]

Come to think of it, my T's feet point at the door 99% of the time. It's just the way his office is organized- nothing personal I think (hope :-)).
IDK but I wouldn't ascribe any secondary meaning to this.

[content30]

I agree with Stopdog and anilam; I wouldn't make much of it. I would judge T more by how engaged he is. Does he actively listen and engage appropriately?

My Ts chair happens to be angled toward the door. So, technically, her feet point towards the door 100% of the time for all of her clients, but I can tell that she likes her job, is "present" in my sessions, and does not actually want to run out the door.