Couch 49 - And the dance goes on

I get what you're saying, but while I can see what you're expressing in your post, I still do not agree with the information in the original PM. That view seems very distorted to me.

omg.. Sorry you had to see that MUE.. I think we all live with the understanding that people don't like us, or don't agree with our choices, etc... However, to have it thrown in or faces like that, I am sure hurts like hell. (((Hugs)))...

I love ya MUE.....

Granite, if it's something you feel - then it may be something others feel. What you said wasn't horrible or ignorant. You're frustrated, and that's perfectly ok! It's important for ME to know that in order for us to have a friendship.

I care about you, granite. I WANT your friendship. I don't want you to be annoyed every time you read a post from me. You can choose to vent to other people about me - or you can choose to work through it WITH me so that we can grow. That's what I want, anyway.

I'm sure it's frustrating to hear the same things over and over again - especially when it's within my power to do something to change it. I'm sure you can understand that though, considering all the times you've struggled to talk in therapy. People could say, "Just SPEAK! If you're not going to speak, don't go!!!"....But with caring, understanding and empathy - and a true desire to get to know you and your struggles, we get it. I get it.

I considered that as well, granite. But I'd imagine there's a lot more to be gained by working through this instead of running away. Can we try?

Why delete your account? Could you just take some time off if you want, but then leave open the possibility of coming back? We all get frustrated at each other (the block button is a marvelous tool) - any number of people tell me to quit therapy, go away, that I am too negative for them to handle (when often I am kidding), and so forth. I have some people I don't read at all, some I try not to read most of the time, and some people I like, but can frustrate me or irritate me so when I am feeling like "If X says/does y one more time I will scream" - I take a break.
I just think deleting/threatening to delete an account may be premature and a knee jerk reaction. And it often seems like it is being done at others/is passive aggressive. (I am not saying that is the case here, just that it can seem like it).

I agree, I hope that no one leaves because of this.

I agree working through notmal relationship issues on the boards is nice, a safe enviroment if one chooses to share an have a honest relationship with others on here. Granite , you are loved and its almost a proven fact that one never really wants to leave PC forever. If you must take a break , then do so but come back think of all the good things tht have come from PC. PC and its people saved my life.... Its ok honey. Long live the couch!

revolving slamming door. Come on, nobody is more annoying than me, and I still stick around. Granite, you have to stay. I've been cracking up all afternoon at the idea that you would sneak food to your hhusband if we locked him in one of his cabinets but you wouldn't let him out. And now I see how thoughtless that remark is but I just kept seeing him like Joey on Friends. Well you don't have to stay but we wish you would. It's nice to know that you're at keast talking to somebody.

Granite, I'm wondering what you're feeling to cause you to want to leave?

Is it because you want people to convince you to stay?

I'm sure if you reach into your reservoir of knowledge of people of PC, you are cared for here.

Yeah mue I am so sorry you got that. I don't see you that way at all.

Nobody leave PC. Look at this lovely bunny instead.
If you leave PC, you will upset this bunny!
You don't like upsetting bunnies, do you?!



Can I just say I love Stopdog's negativity. It just seems like part of the way of the world.

I think my perceived negativity is not un-positive. I think of it as a balance.

I don't want anybody to leave PC! I love the experiences and information and things that we all share and many times has led me to talk about something with t that I hadn't really thought of before, but has ended up being really beneficial to me. I hope nobody leaves over this thing.

I need to replace the doors on my house, and there are a lot of them. I need to go to a hardware store and just look at some. I have old wooden/glass doors so I am certain new, steel insulated would help my utility bills, but man, doors are expensive.

I need a new front door also. My dog dug a hole in the frame so I also have to replace the framing. Are you just replacing the door itself, stopdog?

I had another really good session with t today. I heard her dog barking in the background and she was shushing her, this is the dog she used to bring to sessions sometimes when still in town, I said oh she just wants to be part of the fun! And t said she wants to be the WHOLE show LOL. I did 3 sand trays since our last appointment and sent her the pics of them, we talked about those some which is always fascinating to me what she says she feels when she looks at them. We talked about my owl poem, and a dream I had about my cousin, and more about dealing with my feelings about my FOO from my recent visit back there, and I couldn't resist poking fun at her a little bit at the end I said "oh by the way I loved it last week when you said 'If I were the type to give homework...' what do you mean IF you were the type?" She goes "Did I say that? Oh my. Thank you for telling me." I told her I thought it was just really funny but in a good way and we ended the session with a laugh. Always a good thing.

MKAC SD ... I need a new door... Rated R for language

The door and the frame - I think that is it. Or the guy doing it is going to check the frame. I am not certain - the only thing I know is that it is costly and not that exciting. I am not good with this sort of home repair and don't know how to measure the right parts etc. I have replaced two doors already that were rotting on the bottom (basement doors). I have 5 more to go.
Your dog has a better work ethic than mine - mine would think "digging through a door frame is a lot of work - we will wait and get the human to do our bidding."

Wow SD.. We are having a bunch of stuff done too, fix door frame, gate, shed door... Etc Not to mention that a part of my water system went out.. It was 280 in labor the part was under warranty ... Haha by 1 yr.. Thank goodness..... I'm gonna get a second job.... How much are strippers making now a days at a hole in the wall that's dimly lite?

I suggest pole dancing - a work out and a money maker.

Take my age in consideration...I'm not as Flexiable as I used to be.

Pick your audience. Nursing homes for example.

Geriatric , fixed income.... Are you nuts?

Dude - you just said you weren't flexible. Those guys would not require much flexibility - too much would kill them. Just a short little swing around a curtain rod you held and they would tuck their bingo money in your shorts (no g-strings - see above).