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Legendary
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I've wondered about something for a while but was afraid of being criticized. I am curious if others look on the bottom of the forum to see where others are reading or posting? Is that intrusive? I don't always do it but often I click on the names to see who is reading my thread, or where others are reading. Is that like googling my T? I know it isn't as bad, and if someone is posting, of course we know about it, but it seems like it's snooping. Do others even look at the listing of names on the bottom to see who and how many are reading? I know it's inaccurate because not everyone logs in and some people, including myself, are "invisible", I think. But maybe it's not right to look where others are reading or posting.
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I sometimes do, but only to see if there is someone missing for a while then I'll PM to see if they are doing ok. If I don't see them on the forum or their name on the users list and they've had a bad time. then i will PM them. There is always invisible mode.
I don't see it as invasive for someone to check whos reading my threads etc. People might see my activity as invasive but I like to make sure people are ok as many people disappear and their name turn up on the grief and loss forum, I think this very sad. In short, no not being intrusive. |
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#3
No, somehow I'm not interested- could be that I don't have threads to check up on (I've started 2 since I joined)
anyway, I don't think it's intrusive- but hey I don't think googling your T is intrusive also |
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I can see why people might find it intrusive but really if you are agreeing to membership and that is one of the functions then you have to accept some people will use that function. Personally i don't care who is looking at my posts or what other people are looking at.
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You can control whether your name appears in the list at the bottom so that you can have that bit of privacy if you want, and I believe I have chosen that option for myself. I like that PC provides us with that choice.
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Well then it's settled- ppl who mind can turn it off.
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#7
Don't think it matters as this is a public forum, but does it ever bother you if people read your thread and then don't post?
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Your have the intrusive police out in force with this thread :-0
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I don't think its intrusive just curiosity. And like people said if you're uncomfortable being seen, then just go invisible. I don't mind being visible on this site, but when I'm on AOL I am always invisible because people I don't know send me messages. But that's a different kind of community. This community is very loving and caring so I don't mind that they know I'm online and can message me anytime they want
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A Q- if I leave the page on on my IPad and do stg else, does it still say I'm reading it?
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I don't think it's intrusive; no one knows what you are doing with your time, and for yourself, they are busy with themselves. I don't know how useful it is to you though, it seems kind of a self-soothing (or upsetting?) behavior where you don't really have any interaction with another, just yourself and not in any way that can really give you any input/help you?
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I could care less if anyone checks what I'm reading. But my question would be: why do you care? It seems like a very obsessive way to spend one's time. What are you trying to distract yourself from with this activity?
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And are you interested in what other people are doing, or who's paying attention to you? That would be an important question to answer, I think.
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I mentioned googling my T because it seems to me the root is similar. I want to know. It's to gain some feeling of reassurance but it's not so helpful in the long run. Maybe I'll bring it up with my T. I think curiosity is okay, but I take things to the next level where the line between normal and abnormal is fuzzy. I'm aware of that in me. |
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To me, you can't call something "intrusive" on a public forum. You are curious
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Curiosity is fine but I think mine often goes beyond that. I was just wondering if anyone else felt that way. Maybe I'm being too hard on myself. I was just "curious" whether anyone else was as "curious" as I am! |
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It does seem like a really indirect way of finding out information. I might spend some time questioning why it is so important to you to have others pay attention to you. That sounds like a painful way to live.
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What?? It may be painful, but don't most people want others to like them and pay attention to them?
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I have myself on invisible as well because I found it intrusive when someone was looking at what I was looking at. It just made me really uncomfortable. That constant desire to have people paying attention to you is also something I don't "get" but that was not your question. Do I think it's intrusive? When it was happening to me and I knew it, yes, I found it intrusive. There is a "solution" though in the invisibility thing for those of us who do find it an issue.
As others have said though, I think the work for you is understanding the need that you have to know what others are doing and whether they are paying attention to you. |
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