[GenCat]

For the life of me I can NOT understand why I just care so much. I think I just have a tendency to care a lot for people, espically women, who I can somehow relate to. Take for example my T. Yes, I care so much for her, I almost question whether or not I like her in a unprofessional client to T way. Not in a romantic way, but in a way I want to be her best friend. She could be my mother, or I could be her daughter or sons girlfriend. What is WRONG with me!?

[roads]

Humanitarian type people are naturally caring ... although no more for one gender than another. Maybe you're especially drawn to women and women's issues? Or is it your T who is the one you're really wanting to talk about here ... is she more than "an example"?

The simplest solution here would be to talk this over in a session. Many of us, especially in the early days of counseling, feel a connection with our T that isn't simply therapist-patient, & usually we need to figure that out before we can move on to other work. Whether it's Best Friend, Mother-Child, Lovers, whatever ... we need to acknowledge it.

For now, don't worry about it--share it.

Roadie

[GenCat]

Originally Posted by Roadie

Humanitarian type people are naturally caring ... although no more for one gender than another. Maybe you're especially drawn to women and women's issues? Or is it your T who is the one you're really wanting to talk about here ... is she more than "an example"?

The simplest solution here would be to talk this over in a session. Many of us, especially in the early days of counseling, feel a connection with our T that isn't simply therapist-patient, & usually we need to figure that out before we can move on to other work. Whether it's Best Friend, Mother-Child, Lovers, whatever ... we need to acknowledge it.

For now, don't worry about it--share it.

Roadie

I have been oddly connected to other people, not just my T. But all of them were females who were much older than me. I don't think I could talk about this issue right now to my T, it would just be awkward for me to describe my feelings to her.

[WePow]

What you describe sounds very natural. Ts foster the relationship with a client so we can work through these emotions. You have reasons for these emotions. It is a part of your work to find out how the past wounds might be impacting this relationship.

[BonnieJean]

T and I looked at my "huge need to care" about people and found it closely related to me thinking that's what they wanted because that's what I want. To be cared about. It also relates to my childhood in which I had to hold things together for my self and got approval from being the unaffected care giver. Each person will have there own reasons that these behaviors develop. Mine had been caring about with the force of an infatuation. It was a relief to discover mine an it has improved some of my relating to people. I'd encourage you to talk about it with t when you can.

[Perna]

I think it is easier to focus on others than ourselves. Nothing is "wrong" with you, it can be a natural reaction. Your caring though can be a good indication of how well you could care about yourself which is exciting.

[WikidPissah]

Nothing is wrong with you, most people want to love and be loved.