Couch 53 Bringing it All Back Home

I only like flowers when somebody has bought them for me Other wise, I don't even bother!

stopdog... is it romantic to you if your SO buys you a new tool or toy to figure out?

to me "romantic" is taking the time to figure out something that the other person would really love to have... to me there is no category of "romantic" things...

I guess its more about being known...

sometimes you can wait around forever for something or you can do for yourself that which your spouse will not do for you...

not only did I buy myself flowers but I bought myself a new ring... I wear it like its my engagement ring... its really really pretty... my H has never bought me any jewelry... (except for the teany weany engagement ring and my wedding band that I haven't worn in 10 years..it doesn't fit anymore and its really not my style now)

the new ring is not real diamonds but I'd rather have something pretty that I love then real and tiny that I can afford... my kids going to private school is more important to me...

I would rather just do it myself and let the partner do it herself and then come together and appreciate that each of us is happy. I consider getting rid of the larger possibility for mis-step to outweigh the rare on target situation. For myself especially. If the partner wants something and is willing to tell me, then I can often do it. But if we leave it up to me to guess - we are lost. And I hate her trying for me - I get the trying is nice and all, but I would rather not have the trying and me having to be grateful for something I did not want than no trying at all in the romance category.

My H and I decided long ago to simply tell each other what we want. For my 40th birthday, we went shopping together and I got the chain saw I wanted.

Well its after 9pm so its off to bed since I'm getting up at 5:45am this week.

This just my stuff and I need to get it out of my head. Don't feel bad, RTS. But this just reminded me that when i left my ex-h took my engagement ring and wedding ring from me for safe keeping as I was living in homeless accommodation and he hasn't given it back yet. My ring is my mothers engagement ring remodelled. I'll have to ask for it back.Not really fussed on the engagement ring.

Night RTS sleep well.

Resistance is futile....

I used to like getting flowers - but always told him that I'd prefer that he not get them at a florist because it costs way too much money. He used to stop at a stand on his way home from work every few weeks and pick up some pretty flowers (early on in our relationship) and the most exciting part was him telling me he only paid $2 for them (and we were both excited about that). I was so proud. LOL.

Granite, it's hard to disengage - especially when we've been programmed to take on the burdens of others....but SD is so right. You have a choice here.

i kind of just want to forget what i said and go on it was inappropriate and i am so sorry .

That's funny MUE! I suppose it really is more about my love language than, just liking flowers. I just like to know my H is thinking of me and what I like, so even a random text message saying he is thinking about me does almost the same as getting the flowers. I love giving thoughtful gifts, and I forget not everybody speak the same language that I do!

Getting nervous about seeing T tomorrow morning. I decided after feeling so awful after my last session that I was going to plan on talking about some of my history that I haven't really talked much about. I hope I can follow through with it. My critical mind is telling me how stupid and pathetic it is to even think about let alone talk about. The fact that it affects me to this day is embarrassing. ACK.

My daughter's last day of school is tomorrow. I just made a batch of chocolate pretzel rods cuz she wants to give some to her teachers. Stopped by my mom's finally to visit my aunt/cousin briefly.

I wish this dang migraine would go away. Bad weather week.

MUE does your daughter have any plans for the summer?

We also used to try to one-up each other for the holidays until it got way out of hand....a huge stereo set...then pool table...then cruise to Bermuda.

We also made it a point never to buy cards for each other - only handmade cards, which was kinda silly because he had no real artistic ability. I wanted it to come from the heart. He did his best and was a good sport about it.

The last year of our marriage, I didn't even open my Christmas gifts from him because I was so disgusted with him...with us...with everything. We split up 3 months later.

My mom watches my sister's kids and my daughter at my sister's house 4 days a week during one month of the summer while my sister and her H go to work. They have an in-ground pool and my sister's daughter is the same age as my daughter.

She's also going to Disney with my sister's family in August.

Aside from that, she will be home with me and we have a membership to our local swim club which will help occupy her. She'll have friends over, have sleepovers at our house, etc. - and when I have to work, my mom keeps her for me.

Sounds like she has a fun summer ahead!!

I hope so!

I rented an apartment today just me and Daisy are moving to Fort Worth... Look at me being a big girl

A valued workmate was sacked yesterday.

The owner was in a bad mood and my mate was just the closest guy he could fire.

So it goes.

You go girl!!

Wow, that sucks, CE.

Lola, I'm so proud of you. Enjoy the apartment.

Alright, couch peeps, I'm going to try to get to bed early....My mind is racing because my T session is first thing tomorrow morning after I get my daughter off to school...and I have no idea how I'm going to do what I planned on doing....UGH.

20 seconds of courage....so pathetic.