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CantExplain · Jun 20, 2013, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by My kids are cool

Wow! I pay about $450 a MONTH for my house. Even the more expensive areas for rentals here are no where near that. A thousand a month gets you something really nice.

Wow to you too! $450 a month would get you one bedroom in someone else's house around here.

CantExplain · Jun 20, 2013, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by My kids are cool

There are advantages and disadvantages to every place, I suppose.

I saw a house that I LOVE for only $180K, but it is in a weird neighborhood. One of those places where you have a gorgeous old Victorian right next to a shanty. I love that house SO much though. I wish I could find a house like that in the country with land, but then it would be 300K or more.

What do you pay for your pony paddock?

CantExplain · Jun 20, 2013, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Mastodon

There was a considerable number of Swedish volunteers fighting for Finland, too.

I imagine there were more than a few Swedes helping the Norwegian resistance, too.

Jun 20, 2013, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

I imagine there were more than a few Swedes helping the Norwegian resistance, too.

There were, though that was much less widely known at the time.

CantExplain · Jun 20, 2013, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Readytostop

Yes. Therapy had taught me that life is about choices not shoulds and obligations. Its helped me not to read minds and to accept that things are not black and white... all good or all bad... perfect or horrific (although I still expect perfection from me)...

I can now identify emotions and use way more feeling language. I've also learned that I don't have to let my feelings drive my actions...etc.. etc..

But I don't have many answers about the past that drives my PTSD, or have answers or ability for healing of my core feelings about myself... all of that is locked inside and I can't begin to unlock it without a lot of money for theray that I don't have and I would have to spend years in T.

But truthfully... my main mantra before therapy was "I don't need anything from anyone."... my reality now is "I have lots of needs that I would like people in my life to fill but they aren't in a place to do that for me (parents, H, etc..) so really its just a frame of mind difference...not a change in life.

An excellent summary!

CantExplain · Jun 20, 2013, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Mapleton

I left one of my problems thousands of miles behind me. Some others didn't care how far I got, and followed

My sister emigrated to Scotland!

Jun 20, 2013, 03:30 PM

Aaaand... the ice cream's gone. (I know you were all wondering.)

Jun 20, 2013, 03:39 PM

And I'm feeling sad and angry and frustrated with my poor innocent T. I've been okay all day, and five minutes before H is due home I start to lose it. Not good.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:01 PM

(hey murray - I see you, and appreciate your hugs very much. How are you doing, friend?)

murray · Jun 20, 2013, 04:02 PM

(Mast) thanks. Not doing very well

Jun 20, 2013, 04:05 PM

I'm really sorry to hear that.

Mapleton · Jun 20, 2013, 04:09 PM

Heading out to the store, but very sorry to see that you two aren't doing so good.

murray · Jun 20, 2013, 04:14 PM

Sorry to be a downer. Things are a bit rough right now and I am concerned that I have totally ticked my T off. I know it's in my head, but worried that he is going to say he's had it with me and all my crap.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:17 PM

You're not a downer, murray - I just hate that you're not doing so well right now. I am willing to bet a gazillion kittens that your T will say nothing of the sort, at all. When do you see him?

murray · Jun 20, 2013, 04:20 PM

"a gazillion kittens "- that image has improved my day immensely . Thanks

I see him again on Tuesday.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:22 PM

Jun 20, 2013, 04:33 PM

Bedtime. Take care, couchinistas.

murray · Jun 20, 2013, 04:35 PM

Goodnight Mastodon. Hope you have a pleasant sleep.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by murray

Sorry to be a downer. Things are a bit rough right now and I am concerned that I have totally ticked my T off. I know it's in my head, but worried that he is going to say he's had it with me and all my crap.

Can you email or call and ask so u don't have to spend the weekend thinking about it?

murray · Jun 20, 2013, 04:45 PM

Thanks Ready. Sadly it's an email that I sent earlier that I think was too pathetic and annoying that is causing me to worry. I know, I did it to myself

Jun 20, 2013, 04:50 PM

I doubt your t is upset by u sharing your feelings in an email? Did u ask for reply? My t says its normal to need to hear things over and over again to really accept it not just in your head but in your heart.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:51 PM

I want another kitty now.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:53 PM

Murray...how is the job search going?

Have you given thought to what Type of work you would enjoy?

murray · Jun 20, 2013, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Readytostop

I doubt your t is upset by u sharing your feelings in an email? Did u ask for reply? My t says its normal to need to hear things over and over again to really accept it not just in your head but in your heart.

He actually sent back a very brief practical reply earlier which is what sent me into a bit of a panic. Logically I know it will be fine and he most likely isn't angry. Guess I was just looking for reassuring kind T and got practical tough T instead. I know, as has been said many times on here before, this is the difficulty of emailing with T.

Jun 20, 2013, 04:59 PM

Yeah Murray my xT would not reply unless I asked... So I would write something pathetic and needy. And then I would tell him I needed reassurance that I wasn't pathetic and overly needy

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