we're going to go.. who should I bring?

********Trigger for talk of rape***************



This past winter T and talked about the possibility of going to the place where I was raped. We talked about it yesterday and I decided that I want to do it. So, T wants one other person there with us. He said I could choose from a number of people. One could be my husband (which is not gonna happen) or a close friend, or a t from his office that I don't know, or our MC could go with us.. I don't know who I should bring.

I think I am leaning towards MC..

Very good luck, but one question... what does MC stand for?

Mc - marriage counselor

Ohhh..yes if you like and trust your MC I would bring her for sure. I wish you the best in taking this brave step.

Healed...that's a big step... I assume the other person is for T's boundaries so I think you should take someone who will respect your wishes...

for me I would be okay with someone else there but maybe I would have to have rules like "You are not allowed to say anything while we are there"... "you are not allowed to bring it up to me in the future unless I bring it up"... would MC think its free game to discuss in your MC session? or perhaps that would be good so your H has an idea of how things are for you?

I'm a control freak so I would need to feel like I had some control.

I wish you luck with this

what a huge step healed .good luck

That's huge healed...good luck. Bring someone who will stand back and observe without saying anything.

Yes, the 3rd person is just his rule. I he it, bit I giggle at it as well considering t sessions are always just me and him! I get it is in a different place and has the opirtunity to be a highly volatile situation. I am leaning between my BFF when she comes up for a couple of weeks next month, or our mc. This could be a great step to take with our mc.. May free me up to talk a little more freely with him.

I am not excited to be going there, but hopeful this may spur some kind of break through in my "healing."