What are your Fears?

Fears, big or small, that you experience or have experienced in therapy or with T.

With my T, I tend to get more anxious and more self conscious. I tell her how I am feeling honestly when she asks, and one time I told her I felt like I was going to be sick and pass out. I suddenly realized I feared passing out on her, or vomiting right there on the spot! Hmm, so just like I have a fear of crying in front of her...what are some things you fear in therapy? And do you know why you have this fear?

I have a fear of overtaxing my T with just being me.

My stepmother was very controlling so I feared being known by T, being pinned down. For many years I felt like a wild, corralled pony with T chasing me around the corral.

I fear being 'seen' and found disgusting by the other person.

I have a fear that I find that this T Im with works for me, but they limit the time I can go, and I'm not ready to... That I'm not functional by then.

Yes. I believe we all have fears. Remember that u are sharing things with your T that u don't share with anyone else. U have to dig deep into your mind reliving everything that has happened to u in the past which is intense and overwhelming. Those experiences bring up physical emotions that are hard to deal with and may cuase us pain in the process.

Hang in there because some good may come out of your sessions with your T and in time u may discover something about yourself that u didn't know before....

I wish u the best in your journey....

"almostthere"

Ugh I have that same fear MKAC.
I fear that once someone sees me they will recoil in disgust. It feels inevitable and I just cant figure out why it hasn't happened with T yet. The longer it takes and the more I am seen, the worse the devastation I will feel when he finally understands how vile and disgusting I truly am.

I have a fear that I am making things up or that I've totally misunderstood or misrepresented the situation. I am afraid I am really a giant drama queen and don't know it.

I fear T will reject me and say he can't see me anymore because my case is too difficult for him.

I fear that I will repulse and offend T with things I tell him about myself and he will not want to see me anymore.

I fear disappointing T and having him yell at me that I'm not trying hard enough.

This sums it up pretty well for me too

Outside of T I have a very severe case of death anxiety.

I am afraid my T will develop a strong dislike for me in which case I would probably fall over and die. I am always afraid I am being too big of a burden, taking up too much of her time. I really hate being an inconvenience.

I fear he will abandon me and that he'll eventually see me how I see me....a terrible person.

I'm afraid that I will do all this work, believing I am getting better and growing, only to find out that it was all a fragile illusion constructed by T and me. That I'll end therapy and everything will fall apart, and it will become obvious that I am just broken and incapable of leading a healthy normal life, regardless of my best efforts.

My biggest fear used to be disappointing T or T judging me. I got over that after about ten months, when I told her something huge to me. Before I told her, I also thought I might get sick and told her so. She was very matter-of-fact and asked me to please do so in the trash can and pointed it out-- ha! I guess I wasn't the first to say that.... I'm happy to report that I did not lose my lunch. I was able to tell T, a huge weight was lifted, and T handled it so well, which made all the difference in my life.

Now, if I had to come up with a fear, it would be that T would move or stop being a therapist before I stopped needing therapy. At the least, I have to go back in two years to fulfill a requirement for grad school (to be a T). I hope to go back to her...and see her in the mean time for tune-ups!

My needs being too much for my T
My T abandoning me because of that
My T (or anyone) seeing my 'trauma' as not being serious, thinking that i am overreacting
My anger erupting and ruining me, my T, my life

My fear much like others have said.. T leaving me. I am so afraid that I am going to share "it all" and then he is going to leave me hanging. We talked about it last session.. He said he wasn't going anywhere, I told him I don't believe anybody who says that to me.

It seems I have no fears today. Today I'm still angry with my T. . That's a little sad for me because I don't know excatly why I'm angry with her and my emotions are swinging. I shouldn't think so much about that. Today she's not important for me at all.... Now, I could leave her without any regret. Could you tell me why? Any presumption?

Usually I'm afraid of : parting of us (me and my T), to be discovered ,( she will get to know I'm mean rat and my problems are really stupid or they even don't exist). I'm afraid of real closeness between us. I'm afraid also she does not know what she should do with me, how to cure me. I'm afraid of my anger I feel towards her (sometimes I feel there is only anger and nothing more ) and that our "relationship" that's illusion! In the last resort I try not to let my fears get to my consciousness.
Sorry about my English ...I should place this senstence as my signature...and I'm going to do that .

I fear being abandoned by t...

Sometimes, especially when doing SE, I get so anxious that I fear my deodorant isn't working. Or I'll be physically disgusting in some other way.

Other than that, I greatly fear that when I have to stop seeing my T regularly, I won't be to handle the separation. I also fear that she is going to die before I do, and that when I find out, I'll totally fall apart and won't be able to go on with my life.

When I am angry with someone, I disassociate them from my life as like a punishment for them, but what happens instead is it becomes a punishment for me because I was the one who let anger get in the way of my relationship. Happens to me all the time and to my loved ones and T...what I have to ask myself, is the anger really worth it?

I feared telling the whole truth out of fear of being judged. I think it is hard to find a T you really connect with, who feels sympatico.

I fear that I will do something wrong. Say the wrong thing or act wrongly somehow. Sit in the wrong way. Shake hands incorrectly. Not perform adequately.
And that I take up too much physical space.

I really have no fears about therapy. It is the one place in my life that stays consistent and supportive. It's my real life that at times terrifies me.

What is SE? I keep seeing it but don't know what it means?

I fear that I am forgettable.
I fear that I am not worthy.
I fear that T sees me and hates me.
I fear the ego state that suffocated me the last four days or whatever.