If you could ask your T one question...

Just a random curiosity:

If you could ask your T one question about absolutely anything (and be guaranteed to get an answer) what would you ask?

Guarenteed to get a *truthful* answer?

If we weren't therapist and client, would you be my friend in real life? (like go out to a movie, or lunch, or just hang out kind of friend)

Were you abused?

What exactly were the problems between you and your H to cause the divorce?

I agree...same!

What is it exactly that you are supposed to be doing and how does it work or fit into what I am supposed to be doing here?

ExT: Were you hoping to get rid of me and jumped on a convenient out I provided you?

CurrentT: Funny, I don't really have any burning questions to ask her. She seems open enough that I'm not left with questions.

Do you genuinely care about me?

Do You Love Me?

That's what I would pick as well. I think I know that the answer is no, but I assume lots of things that are not necessarily true - or so T says.

Can you really help me?

What was your childhood like?

Do you see me like a daughter and care about me like a mum would?

Ex-T- Can you tell me from your heart how you truly feel about what happened surrounding termination? ( minus the therapy speak and a ss covering speak)

New T- nothing.

Ex T : have you struggled with an eating disorder, as you really get it to the point that I feel you have been through the same.

New T : do you truly believe that the work we are starting you will see it through till the end

What was your childhood like?

Are you sick of me yet?

Yes, this one.

How did you cope with your sisters suicide, how do you not cry like I do when talking about a past loved one?

Have you ever had oral sex.

Are you grossed out by me and the things I tell you?

I have enough of telling you my story, so why not let it be your turn and let me hear your life story?

What was the process of your own recovery?

My T is very open and honest, and i am not afraid to ask her anything, but this is the 1 thing that she has not elaborated on, as she says it's not helpful to me, and may be triggering for me.
I know she cares for me, as when we had our big rupture and i went back to see her yesterday, she was shocked to realize that i didn't know she was "very fond" of me, and that she doesn't just think of me as 'another angry client'

Do you think I really should be in T or am I just a whiney complaining needy person who is never going to change?

or

Do you think I should leave my H?

"T, has there ever been a question you would have liked to have asked me, but haven't been able to? for me, or others? and what would that question be?"