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#26
Jun 28, 2013, 06:31 PM
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I already know she wouldn't.
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#27
Jun 28, 2013, 06:50 PM
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I am pretty sure that my T would attend.
I do like the way Goingtogetthere's T responded though. For me that is the point of the question- if we matter and if they really care. |
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Jun 28, 2013, 07:01 PM
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 I love your T's answer. I agree. It's NOT about whether she would go to the funeral, but about how much she cares about you, and that she would mourn for you. My T might WANT to attend my funeral but I don't know how much of an effort she would make to do so. I'm more interested in whether she would visit me in the hospital if I get sick, or when I'm about to die, even when I'm not seeing her as my T anymore. I also wonder if it would be an intrusion to her family if she dies before me, and I attend HER funeral. They wouldn't have to know I was there. I sure hope I die before she does. 
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#29
Jun 28, 2013, 08:11 PM
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Her answer is a load of BS, sorry to say. I know when I was going through a rough time awhile back. My T for weekly talk therapy is a psychiatrist and she told me that if I was to die she and my ACT worker would attend my funeral. I then said well you know I won't be laid to rest in the city I am living in now, it will be three hours away. The reply I got was well it isn't Afghanistan! As in distance wouldn't keep her from attending within a reasonable distance... But she also made it clear that she would be very sad to have to go. Needless to say I was touched that she would come.
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#30
Jun 28, 2013, 09:37 PM
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People are mentioning suicide here, but you seem to be referring to if you died of a physical (cardiac) condition.
I think her answer is pretty stupid, don't get it. But the important thing here, is why you're asking her this question. It sounds like maybe you're seeking reassurance that she cares about you? It's tough to quantify 'care' though, and I think whether a therapist would attend one's funeral or not is not a particularly accurate accounting of if and how much they cared about you. I think this is something you're going to have to determine and internalize within the context of the here and now relationship. |
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#31
Jun 29, 2013, 01:27 AM
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I asked this a few months ago and my T said yes she would. I would go to her's too.
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Jun 29, 2013, 12:21 PM
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#33
Jun 29, 2013, 01:46 PM
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I really don't want to have a funeral, let alone one that my T might attend. I think funerals are for the living, and I wonder every time I attend one is where all these mourners were when the departed was alive.
As far as me knowing if T dies, she said a T from the office will call me to break the news. I doubt I would be invited, but I think sending flowers would be ok. |
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#34
Jun 29, 2013, 04:38 PM
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I seriously doubt my T would come to mine.
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