[HealingTimes]

My T and I have discussed the end of therapy for me.
Not in a termination way, but that i am improving and really taking huge strides towards a full and healthy recovery.

I feel so incredibly proud of me, and of my T and our relationship. We have faced some really tough tests, 1 particularly recent one.

We discussed scaling back the sessions to fortnightly, but that if at any time i felt like it was too hard, we could move it back to weekly again.

So, my question is, who has done this before, in an amicable and healthy way? Did you have any concerns about it, or did you feel 100% ready?

I feel a bit of both. My T had prepared me well. I dont feel like i can't cope without her, i know i can. She has shown me that i am stronger than i ever gave myself credit for.
But i guess i am a little sad about the whole thing.

[Victoria'smom]

This is how I want to end therapy but haven't got there yet.

[Benetduncan]

Am exactly in the same boat as you. I'm finishing up and have just two more sessions which have been spaced out over a month. The end has been amicable and really positive and I've taken a lot from it.

I guess I have concerns that I won't be able to get the perspective she gives me. But at the same time I feel like I'm strong enough to use the tools she has given me by myself.

Best of luck and so many congratulations!

[HealingTimes]

Thanks
Benetduncan-yeah we will go from fortnightly to monthly, then bi-monthly, then quarterly.

I have gained so much from therapy, and my T has been so great in helping me to examine the past, and how i have based my identity on the wrong things.

[Asiablue]

Well done on all your hard work. It's so lovely to hear of people naturally coming to the end of therapy, happy and looking towards the future. I think the sadness you feel is completely natural and not indicative of unresolved work or anything. The sadness is just part of the bittersweet ending.

[HealingTimes]

Thanks Asia, it feels amazing! We have been looking back at how i have progressed over the past 4 years and i have to say that the change in myself has been something that i could never have imagined.

[Raging Quiet]

It sounds like a good position to be in and your T has also put a safety net in place.

I hope it goes well!

I can validate your feelings to.

[content30]

I'm also in your boat. I'm not terminating with my T. I'm on "maintenance," let's call it. I have no standing appointments, and it's been over a month since I've seen her. I did call her this morning, though, after finding out some big, anxiety-provoking news. I decided to see her on Friday. So, I'm going to do that. After that, I'm not sure how long I'll wait. I am starting graduate school to be a T, and this school requires one to see a T while in school. So, I already told her that I want her around for that. I don't want to start all over with someone else, and my T is so fantastic. Anyway, I think you'll do fine. I know that I've internalized my T and the things she had said a lot, and this is helpful. I hope the same for you. I'm not worried because she is there if I need her. I feel like I'm spreading my wings and flying out of the nest...but I can always stop by for a visit here and there....same for you!

[HealingTimes]

Thanks everyone

Content- yeah i am confident that i'll do fine. I need to learn how to cope by myself. Longer term, I know my T will be there if any crisis happens, or even if i just want a chat.
At the moment, with the fortnightly appointments starting, i am thinking too far ahead maybe.

There was a time where i could never imagine wanting to be without my weekly appointments, but i guess that a sign of a good T is when you no longer feel that way and have overcome whatever you went into therapy for in the first place.

It kind of feels like it's the beginning of the end of an era (if that makes sense). I am certain that i dont want to stay in that 'sick role' anymore, although i really did want to at some point.