what are the chances

... what woudl it take...

if you asked T if you could hold one of her stuffies?

Not a question for people who don't bring their own.

Are you okay?

My T doesn't have any stuffies in her consulting room, so I can only answer hypothetically... but I'm sure she wouldn't mind? I have my own at home but I haven't ever brought him to session - although I have considered doing so a couple times...

My T doesn't have any either, but she has a small pillow on the couch that I sometimes will hold. (Until I think about how many others have held it or laid their head on it, then... ewwwww and I put it down. )

Instead of 'what are the chances', I might consider the 2 possible answers and how I'd feel about each one. ...

Do you mean that only people who bring stuffies to therapy can answer this?

Not sure exactly what the question is, but will presume to give an answer of some sort anyway - I'm assuming your T has stuffies in her room otherwise the question is a bit academic really - which says to me that she probably has them for clients to use, if they wanted to?

Hm was just about to rabbit on with loads more comments when I realized I actually don't understand the question - do you mean what would you need to do/how would you need to feel in order to ask - or do you mean, how scary would that be?

Sorry

Do you mean that you are afraid to ask your T to hold one of her stuffies? Why does she have them if not for clients to hold? My T has lots of things in her office and I know I can ask to hold anything if I want to. She has the bear I gave her which is technically hers, and sometimes I've asked to hold it.

Does it make a difference that you, or anyone, would have their own? It reminds me of my wanting my T's painting, not mine. I want (to hold) something of hers, not mine. Is that what you're getting at? I don't think a T would think it at all strange if you want to hold something of HERS even though you have your own.

Sorry if I'm off-track with the above, but I think that's what you meant. If not, please clarify and I'll try again!

I'm not totally sure I understand the question, but I will say that my T is also a child play therapist. I'm nearly 100% sure I could ask to play with anything in the room. He's even once taken artwork down off the wall when I was talking about it.

If I wanted to hold one, I would ask.
But there are no stuffies in the room.

An old t had many things in her office to play with/hold, and offered one when she saw me looking at it. One time she also have me a little title statue to "babysit" for her while she was away on vacation. My most recent t had nothing personal in the office, but it was a communal office for interns. This new t also does a lot of therapy with kids, so she has a bunch of stuff around. I could probably hold something in There if I asked. I only take Beary with me when I'm in major crisis... old old t knew this. Recently old t found out recently. This new t i have only seen twice, so she has not had a chance to figure it out yet... I'm not sure I have enough of a relationship with her yet to feel connection through her things... but I know it helped a lot with old old t.

I used to hold my old t's stuffie every session and then she gave it to me... to keep forever. I didn't even have to ask. I love my old t.

Honestly, I don't ask. I hug a pillow until the poor pillow looks lumpy, and my T gets the point and gets me one of her stuffed animals. But would I ever ask, nope. Too awkward for me in some way.

(((SAWE)))

Your T loves you, I am sure it would be okay if you asked.

thanks for asking .... why no, but it's OK, I'm in therapy lol....

seriously I *am* focusing on counting my blessings. And among them I count my T.

thanks to all of you who responded. you PC people are the greatest

My T has some shelves of stuffed toys in his room. I have never asked to hold one, I would find it hard to ask, but I'm sure it would be fine if I did.