Therpist is on vacation- trying really hard not to compare her to ex t

So my therapist is on vacation. Because I only see her 1x a week, it will be two weeks without seeing her. This is the longest I've gone between appts ever, besides being in the hospital. I am finding it super hard to not compare her to old t. My old t would have emailed me, called me to check in, set me up to see her co worker, etc. She would have helped me work through the anxiety about her being away for so long, and would have helped me be in a good mental state before she left. New t gave me no warning that she was leaving (she told me at the end of our last session), and walked me out promptly after saying that she would be unable to call or email. Now I'm trying very hard to not compare her, but its really hard. I know that therapists have their own styles, but I can't help but feeling like she is a bad t for leaving me in the lurch like this. Is that fair of me to feel this way?

No it's not bad of you to feel that way. I can see where you might feel abandoned in that situation.

I guess that maybe your new T doesn't necessarily feel like two weeks is a super long break that warrants a big discussion.

I thought your T had gave you more time than this, because she had told you she was going to be at a conference where you had been for residential?

That really stinks if ALL of that was dropped in a bombshell with no time to prepare for it!

This sounds like part of her overall plan for you: to make you less dependent on therapy.

I can understand no contact during vacation. I have more trouble with her giving you no notice or chance to prepare or to discuss your feelings about the break.

I am not sure fairness of feeling is really where the focus should be. I am not sure I would put fair and therapists in the same paragraph. I think it is rough getting used to a therapist you did not choose and do not like. And liking or not liking a therapist is not fair or unfair. I think one can dislike a therapist and still gain some knowledge from them. And whether one of them is a good therapist or not in a vacuum is not known either because there is no real standard for them. They make up their rules as they go along.

Red Panda- that notice was in regards to another trip she is taking in September, not this one.

My T told me at the very end of our appointment that he would be off the next week and to call if "something big" came up um, ok so what qualifies as "big", you know? So I felt super abandoned and it actually was so much more difficult for me emotionally than it had to be... if my T had just given me a week or two notice, id have been a lot less freaked out. I harbored my resentment and anger toward him about it for about 1 month and then I finally told him how I felt. I prefaced it by letting him know I realize one week off is not a big deal and that he needs to take care of himself and all, but that part of me was hurt, afraid and panicked by it all. He took me very seriously, I could tell, and sincerely apologized to me. He has been very careful about this now and actually gave me like 2 weeks notice this time (my T is on vaca right now).

I felt a little too needy at the time, but I'm glad I told my T how it made me feel. It's important for a T to be aware and sensitive to how their clients experience life.

Ahhhh understood! Going on vacation now would have really thrown me then - having gotten lots of prep for that upcoming conference and none at all for the holiday when the holiday came sooner!

I would have a problem with this. I think your feelings are reasonable.