Rang T just to hear his voicemail greeting

Yep, guilty.

I wonder how many withheld number calls, calling and hanging up, and empty voicemails an average T gets in a day lol?

I imagine more than they would like

I share a phone so I erase messages.I will call on days she's not there.

I did this last night. Have been having a horrible weekend, finally caved and decided to e-mail T about what I've been going through but needed to hear she was kind and not a threat to me via her voicemail before I could hit send.

Insane.... I know...

My t suggested I did it, but like others, I knew she would know I'd rung and couldn't bring myself to do it. Well done you for giving yourself what you needed. I hope it helped

Conversely, I had his cell number as well as his office number. Frequently I would get voice mails from him telling me to call him on his cell. I was so freakishly protective of his privacy that unless I got his message within a New York minute (fumbling for my phone, whatever). I would ALWAYS either text or call his office, which is a phone he never answers. Why I have been and remain protective of him I will probably never understand.

I did this just last week.

god, no. (he might pick up!)

Main T has picked up before when I just needed to hear his voicemail. He was kind enough to chat with me for a moment, even though I was mortified being "caught" listening to his voice. I fessed up and he was kind about it.

I used to to that a lot with my first t. Even now five years after she left me, i have still twice rang her at night just to hear her voice mail.
New t doesnt have voice mail. I just call her if i want to hear her voice. I also have a couple of "podcasts" sorta that she did for me, so that i can listen to a recording of her. Its been helpful during this time that shes been gone for two years. This weekend she figured out how to do youtube so she is going to make a couple videos of herself for me.

My T has a separate cell phone for patients.
I can text, leave a message, and she has answered on weekends/vacations, though I never expect it.
Maybe you should talk to your T about your concerns. If he has given you the number, it sounds like it is included within the boundaries of your therapy. Maybe I'm wrong. It probably be best to ask exactly where the line he is comfortable with. Hopefully, that will make you feel better about having that kind of access to him. Maybe he'll get a separate cell for patients in the future. It's getting to be quite common.
Hugs(:

I wish I could call my T to hear her voice on the answer phone. But her secretary recorded her message

Hey, TR
..I guess I am the oddball...lol I have not called her cell to hear her voice although now that you mention it... But what I will do is read and re-read her emails..over and over sometimes...specifically when I am going through something. It helps me to feel connected. Whenever I go out of town I will email her once a day...many times so that I will hear from her..she always responds

I do. Even after 6 years. She just was away a week, plus I've had to reduce the frequency of sessions, so I've done this really recently Sure it's okay.

I love how long this thread is. Yep, done it. Frequently. And thought I might be the only one. But clearly I am not.

Sometimes I have done it 7 or 8 times in one night. I never leave a message. I told my therapist I did this at some point (I can't remember why, other than that I felt weird and guilty) and he wasn't bothered. Occasionally, when he doesn't recognize a missed call he asks me if it was me.

I still have a bunch of my ex-Ts vms...I recorded them from my phone (before I changed phones) to my little voice recorder and then moved them onto my computer. Do I win for creepy? I just miss him so much...

I have managed not to call his vm altho I know he won't pick up...I am afraid he now has caller id or something...

Wow, I really am not alone!

I once mentioned the idea of recording my sessions and my T said it's up to me as it's my therapy. I decided not to, but now I'm thinking maybe I could record something, I dunno.

Main T made me a guided relaxation mp3 for me--very nice to have around!

growlycat, I'm so jealous!!!
You are LUCKY!!!


Once before, when I went up the stairs,
I met a man that wasn't there.
He wasn't there again today.
How I wish that man would go away~

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And I feel like I'm naked in front the crowd. Cause these words are my diary screaming out loud and I know that you'll use them however you want.

There's a light at each end of this tunnel. You shout. Cause you're just as far in as you'll ever be out.

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Breath (2 am)

So I just saw my T and he said it's absolutely fine to do this, just please don't call after 10pm in case he forgets to turn his phone off. Then he asked if I wanted him to record his voicemail message onto my phone - and proceeded to make me a voice memo. I felt the need to hide while he was doing it, I actually picked up my jumper, which had been on the floor beside me, and put it over my face. I was laughing, though.

I can't decide if I'd rather listen to a message he's recorded just d

So I just saw my T and he said it's absolutely fine to do this, just please don't call after 10pm in case he forgets to turn his phone off. Then he asked if I wanted him to record his voicemail message onto my phone - and proceeded to make me a voice memo. I felt the need to hide while he was doing it, I actually picked up my jumper, which had been on the floor beside me, and put it over my face. I was laughing, though.

I can't decide if I'd rather listen to a message he's recorded just for me or actually ring and connect with his phone. They seem like two different things even if the message sounds much the same. He has literally recorded his voicemail greeting, which means I can play it at 2am or 50 times in a row if I want to.

This is SO something I do!

Boy TR, u have such a nice T. I asked mine if I may record my session and she said no, but to take notes. The reason I want to record is because I have a bad memory and re-playing the session again would help.

My note taking is horrible and not the same. Half the time I don't even understood what I wrote.

Be thankful u have such a nice T!

I am. I'm sorry yours said no to recording, but I can see why they might do that. I decided not to as I felt it might affect the therapy in negative ways.

Cool that you have a choice - or maybe you could do both! I only have a 2-year-old voicemail when I really need to hear his voice. I'm afraid to call his phone, because it's his cell (no answering service) and my number would show up under missed calls or something.