[cka87]

so i have a question for you guys. what is therapy like for you? Ive been seeing T for an eating disorder and seriously considering giving up and quitting therapy (uh for the 2nd time...) Today she was asking me all these questions I didn't think were relevant and I got so upset and just kind of yelled "i dont think any of this is relevant for what im here for!!" then said "well you have to pick the topic we talk about then" like what the heck?! I had no idea what to say. I have been struggling with feeling just hollow and foggy-brained and so alone. i had no idea what topic to start with.

So I told her this and well basically half the session had gone by so we had a little bit of productive conversation after this but I ended up telling her I felt like I wanted to give up and she said she hoped I didn't but then I left without making another appt.

My question is...what is therapy supposed to be like? I like this T, getting to trust her, feel like we click but I feel like therapy is so useless. How does talking help? Am I seeing the wrong person? i'm feeling so awful right now. should i quit and look for someone else? what am I doing wrong?? how does therapy even work.

[tealBumblebee]

I'm kind of in the same boat, so I can't really tell you the answer. But I can tell you that the reason I don't give up (so far lol) is that like you, I do like it. I like trusting her, and I like how content I feel when I leave. My question for you though, is what did she say as to why she didn't want you to give up? I say give it one more session, to address the feelings you have and see if maybe just maybe you are benefiting in some way from attending it. If not, I'd suggest schedule a break (i'm planning 2-4 weeks) and go ahead and set the appt. Then, you know it will be there if you need it, but you can also see if you're missing (and what you're missing) by taking notice of the absence. Just my suggestion. =] Good luck!

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by cka87

so i have a question for you guys. what is therapy like for you? Ive been seeing T for an eating disorder and seriously considering giving up and quitting therapy (uh for the 2nd time...) Today she was asking me all these questions I didn't think were relevant and I got so upset and just kind of yelled "i dont think any of this is relevant for what im here for!!" then said "well you have to pick the topic we talk about then" like what the heck?! I had no idea what to say. I have been struggling with feeling just hollow and foggy-brained and so alone. i had no idea what topic to start with.

So I told her this and well basically half the session had gone by so we had a little bit of productive conversation after this but I ended up telling her I felt like I wanted to give up and she said she hoped I didn't but then I left without making another appt.

My question is...what is therapy supposed to be like? I like this T, getting to trust her, feel like we click but I feel like therapy is so useless. How does talking help? Am I seeing the wrong person? i'm feeling so awful right now. should i quit and look for someone else? what am I doing wrong?? how does therapy even work.

What does your T say to these questions?

[Aloneandafraid]

I am also seeing T for an ED (although didn't originally go for this reason). But I too am seriously considering giving up as it doesn't seem to be going anywhere and I can't stop what I am doing. She just wants me to go to the gp but I don't feel I can trust my gp. We also never seem to talk about the ed - just kind of talk around it. I feel so frustrated and worse now than before I told her about it. I feel as if now I have told her it is out of the box and something has to be done - I am afraid of what I am doing to myself and she has made me see that it is serious and very damaging but I still cant stop. I also have big issues around trust and feeling alone/abandoned so I am scared she will refer me to someone more medical and get rid of me as soon as she can. Any advice much appreciated....

[CantExplain]

ED is a particularly stubborn condition because you get triggered at every meal and you can't avoid that.

[cka87]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

What does your T say to these questions?

I honestly haven't asked her exactly, I'm seeing her tomorrow though so maybe I should write them down and ask her. I'm afraid she just won't answer, sometimes she gives such vague answers when I ask direct questions. Maybe that's the nature of Ed therapy though ? Like there aren't always clear answers that are the same for everyone. I don't know

[cka87]

Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid

I am also seeing T for an ED (although didn't originally go for this reason). But I too am seriously considering giving up as it doesn't seem to be going anywhere and I can't stop what I am doing. She just wants me to go to the gp but I don't feel I can trust my gp. We also never seem to talk about the ed - just kind of talk around it. I feel so frustrated and worse now than before I told her about it. I feel as if now I have told her it is out of the box and something has to be done - I am afraid of what I am doing to myself and she has made me see that it is serious and very damaging but I still cant stop. I also have big issues around trust and feeling alone/abandoned so I am scared she will refer me to someone more medical and get rid of me as soon as she can. Any advice much appreciated....

I could have written this myself. We definitely talk around the Ed but sometimes I feel this is all my fault bc I get so stuck on the same subject line - that being "I'm fat I'm fat I can't eat because I'm fat" I want to move on to more serious subjects but I feel like there is no secret to my eating disorder- the only secret is that I'm fat! Ughhh I don't know. Ill let you know if I get anywhere significant In therapy all I can say is don't give up, you'll never get better if you don't try