I don't want to talk

growlithing · Sep 25, 2013, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Tollhouse

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This may seem harsh....

.... but if they are so bad, why not get cut-off?
Clearly you are not getting caring and support from them... except financially?

You would not be the first to have to survive without money and everything else from parents. You take out student loans, you get a job or two, you go to school part-time, you live frugally. You get free medical care and mental health services because you are poor (with Obama's thing, you should get lots of free stuff now).

You take control of your life.

Thousands of people make this choice. Thousands of people turn 18 and are kicked out. Thousands of people have no family or bad families and they make the choice.

Why are you making excuses? If it was so bad, you already survived and are a fighter... the rest of life now is just figuring **** out.

Drop them.

And before you tell me I don't know what I am talking about, I am around your age and got kicked out of foster care at 18 with nothing. I am in school, working alot, and have some really bad mental health and medical problems. I know more than you know. It is possible.

I know this is what I need to do. I'm not really in the right place to think about this though. I'm actually currently in the ER. I think I need stitches.

Sep 25, 2013, 10:49 PM

From what I read, your T is doing everything she can, its you that is not following through. Coping techniques DO work, you need to actively find what works for you, that is NOT the job of anyone else. They can give you ideas but you are the one who needs to make them work. You say the meds work, why arnt you taking these when you are suicidal or at risk of SI? I doubt you are on a large enough dose to get you addicted. The meds are there to help until you find the right coping stratagies.

feralkittymom · Sep 25, 2013, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Supanova

From what I read, your T is doing everything she can, its you that is not following through. Coping techniques DO work, you need to actively find what works for you, that is NOT the job of anyone else. They can give you ideas but you are the one who needs to make them work. You say the meds work, why arnt you taking these when you are suicidal or at risk of SI? I doubt you are on a large enough dose to get you addicted. The meds are there to help until you find the right coping stratagies.

I think you're mistaken if you believe that all issues can be addressed by behavioral coping skills, no matter how studiously applied . I think it's quite possible that some of the insistence of these SI urges is complicated by the ADD, as well. Benzos are highly addictive, and certainly not appropriate as a long-term strategy when someone is having frequent and escalating SI urges. I think the OP needs a better pdoc assessment, but that's a separate issue.

I'm sure her T cares and is doing what she knows, but it's also clear to me that her experience isn't sufficient in this case. I doubt she has had any experience with mental illness; her caseload is probably largely adjustment disorders, relationship difficulties, and academic anxiety. Unfortunately, she isn't working within a system of strong resources.

Sep 25, 2013, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by feralkittymom

I think you're mistaken if you believe that all issues can be addressed by behavioral coping skills, no matter how studiously applied . I think it's quite possible that some of the insistence of these SI urges is complicated by the ADD, as well. Benzos are highly addictive, and certainly not appropriate as a long-term strategy when someone is having frequent and escalating SI urges. I think the OP needs a better pdoc assessment, but that's a separate issue. .

Now I havent said that, the meds are there to help until the coping skills kick in. Because thats what meds are for, to help you until you can cope on your own. Benzos can be used safely for months if not years as long as you take them as prescribed. (I have been on benzos over 10 years with no addiction problem, and I was not on tiny doses either.)

Pdoc sounds like a great idea but ultimately someone needs to tell this person that doctors cannot save you and cure you, that is up to the patient.

growlithing · Sep 25, 2013, 11:37 PM

Well it doesn't matter right now because I'm in the ER. I just got evaluated by a psychiatrist and she's not going to let me out of here. So I guess I am going IP. I really REALLY don't want to do this again.

winter4me · Sep 27, 2013, 10:36 AM

Sounds like you remain dependent on what you need to let go of...
Your parents cannot truly run your life unless you cooperate.

winter4me · Sep 28, 2013, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by growlithing

Yes, but first I need to not kill myself. Baby steps.

Maybe getting away would be helpful in gaining control to Not act out---I think, honestly and from experience of myself and others, that moving out would be the first baby step. (or getting a license, ...)

Sep 28, 2013, 11:36 AM

winter....the OP went inpatient yesterday, in case you missed her other post.

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