Do you test your T

Lately, my t has taken to giving me assignments to do that night or during the week before sessions. They're usually things to think about or places that she wants me to go. Once she asked me to go somewhere bc she thought it would make me feel better to get out of the house and do something. She said, "I'm going to ask you next week if you did it." I told her that she would forget and wouldn't ask me. She promised she wouldn't forget.

Of course, she never asked me about it. It doesn't really matter to me, but I do realize that I kind of test her with things like this. It's a "if you really care you'll remember the assignments you give me," or "if you care about me you'll call when you know I'm having a rough time."

I don't know how much it affects our relationship or if I do it with other relationships outside of therapy, but I wondered if any of you find yourself testing your T.

I test my T all the time. She passes all the time...then i get mad at myself because i can't trust her. I know how you feel.

Exactly this!
It's almost like i am testing her and wanting her to fail, so that i can say "see, i knew you couldn't handle me/don't love me/i am too much for you".
But so far, 4 years down the line, she has never failed me.
I really should trust her by now.

We want to either confirm our past experiences ( see, I'm right:, no one cares), or we're hoping for a new experience (maybe it will be different this time). As children, it's how we learned to define ourselves and our relationships to others. I think we all do it in T, even if we're not always conscious of it.

I see it as a way of building trust. If they pass, it tends to support the argument that we can trust them & know that they mean what they say and it is not just hot air. A genuine mistake or forgetfulness is okay but if they 'fail' consistently... well, that could be equally revealing.

I used to test my T all he time. Sometimes I'll even say something bogus just to see her reaction or see her waver her reaction from the norm. T passed all my silly test. After awhile it got boring so I stopped. haha

I used to with my old t. And i am sure i used to do it with people in general.
This t, i do not... I feel that it isnt fair to her and that its manipulative, and i dont want to do that to her. As i have gotten older i have learned to not do that to people anymore.

I'm a teacher, and people tend to do very poorly on pop quizzes, and even worse if they are given a test when they don't even know it is a test. Set them up for failure, and they are going to fail most of the time. Be straight-forward with them, let them know what you need from them and remarkably they rise to the challenge.

I test people in general, on lots of different levels. It's a habit i'm trying to be more aware of. I think it's maybe to do with not being able to allow myself to have needs or to ask for what i want or need.
i'm much more comfortable waiting for someone to offer or want to give me what i need cos that means they really want to do it, whereas if i ask then i feel like i'm putting them in a position they might not want to be put in.

So when i test, i'm looking for their natural reactions, to see how they truly feel. I'm looking for clues on their feeling about me i guess?

T tells me I give her trust tests. I see what she means, but I never know when I'm doing it though, lol.

Not intentionally. And it's more in seeing how they react to my freakouts (anxiety and/or shutting down) when I should and can work on calming myself down or keeping myself grounded.

I did, I threw 30 years of back history at her about each of my worst points in my life, and she still didn't refer me out. I'm sure I'll do that with my next T.