What is the dumbest thing T has said to you?

A male T I saw a grand total of once (only for about 10 minutes til I stormed out and never went back): don't have one thing, it was everything he said that was dumb because he was basically telling me what he wanted me to say. He was an idiot!!

Me: I feel huge but my BMI is apparently underweight.
T: you look fine to me, you don't look underweight, maybe you're supposed to be small?

Said during a relapse about 3 years ago. I like to think I've educated her on what not to say to someone with an ED!!

"You make me feel like the worst therapist in San Francisco."
From an eminent psychoanalyst whose ego seemed bigger than her talent, because I was reticent to trust her, open up to her.

OMG that is dumb!

I could write a lot in this post. The one that was said to me several years back, right after I got married and started self-harming, stands out in my mind. I was scared and very anxious and it was our one and only session. She used to be my mom's therapist for many years prior, too.

I spent the entire session feeling on the defensive because she kept saying things like, "are you SURE you've had bad relationships in the past and its not just because you got married?" Um - well I am pretty sure she should have known how ****** my upbringing most likely was considering she met with my mom weekly for 5 or 6 years of it...and my mom reads like an open book (if the therapist had any kind of therapeutic training at all). I can't remember all of it, but she was very detached and seemed to strongly doubt that my problems were anything except adjusting to a new marriage. But is it normal for people who get married to start self-injuring? /: I don't think so...

At the end of the session, she got silent for a few moments and then said something like, "Well ...(?)...Are you going to pay me?" Or something like that...but the attitude was like that...I had NEVER been to a T before and was only 21 years old. I didn't know what I was doing. She could of just said something like ok its $50 per session and I can take check or cash blah blah blah. But she had an accusatory tone to her voice, as though I wasn't going to pay her or something

Anyway, this turned into a novel lol But basically it was a very bad experience for me all around and I never saw that T again.

"All my other clients love me"

Something along the lines of..."I can see why soldiers coming back from the war can't talk about their experiences, but in YOUR case...bla bla bla...". By far the dumbest thing she has ever said!

"The only real solutions to your problems is prayer"
As a matter of fact, this was her answer with any discussion. I didn't stick with that one very long!

Yeah, they had better. Wow, needy much?? Scary!

"I don't think that you really have cancer." Seriously.

!!!!!

"You can't see me, if you don't do well in school."

Though to be fair to her, she is correct, I can't see her if I'm on academic Probation. Still not a good way to deal with me. It made me close off a bit and hide and using guilt on me sends me back to my childhood

At the end of my sixth session, after which I still felt totally needy, raw and suicidal and in need of therapy:

T: "You can talk to your friends about this stuff. Only come back to see me if you need to come, not if you want to come. You'll know the difference."

Me: "But what if I freak out again?"

T: "Just blame it on your pregnancy." (laughs)

I'm convinced this T didn't even know the definition of the word, "trauma."

T: How was vacation? How long did it take you to drive to London?
M: ......... *intense stare* You know where we are.... right?
T: Let's pretend I never said that. REWIND.

haha. She asked me how long it took us to drive to London when I live in New Jersey!

My ex-T, at our second session: "it's been a long time ago, look at that as a game and get over it".
And the next time, very annoyed: "If you don't speak, I can't help you!"
(then she referred me on, thank God).

Not mine personally but my Sons Psych said " Children should be seen and not heard "

( basically told us we spoil him and pander to him too much, obviously we got another Psych who then diagnosed Aspergers Syndrome but that **** sent me home crying and feeling like the worst mum EVER )

Bring your husband in or I won't see you anymore.

"Is that behavior acceptable to you?" - when discussing my struggles to stop reacting in anger in certain situations. That statement combined with his tone pissed me off. Of course it is NOT acceptable to me which is why I came to therapy to begin with (or one of the reasons). Hello T?! I need assistance with managing this - not to be scolded for it. I'm not stupid and know its a problem.

I told my therapist I feel extremely uncomfortable relating and talking to people and feel like I bother people who I don't know, so I don't make many new friends. And he said "You should talk to people" and I was just thinking thanks for the sage advice.

I would be complaining about that. You're not a bad mum, that sounds like a lousy psych!

This was said during a mindful exercise that my ex-T and I were doing:

T: Can you feel the floor beneath your feet?
Me: Uh, I'm too short to reach the floor. *swings legs*
T: *gets completely flustered* Oh... uh... sorry...

She seemed really embarrassed, but I thought it was funny.

"I'm not judging but..."

Which means he was totally judging.

"You don't need therapy any longer because the problems with your fiance (controlling and verbal abuse) are distracting you enough from your own issues"...

And people wonder why I was basically trapped inside my house for 6 years...

while having me discuss family history ... "so that was the uncle that molested you. Was there any real abuse?"