Texting T's

SeekerOfLife · Nov 22, 2013, 04:38 PM

I have my therapists cell number because awhile back she was sick, and was going to miss my appointment, so we had therapy over the phone.

I took it upon myself to send her a brief text the next two days to wish her a speedy recovery. However, she did not respond to either one. I guess I need to ask her about that.

Aloneandafraid · Nov 22, 2013, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by healinghippo38

I think T first texted me that she was running late one day, maybe a schedule change or two. Then I started texting her ALL the time. It was really really bad. I emailed her once, and she encouraged me to continue because I often have trouble speaking during sessions, so then I was emailed ALL the time also. Emailing/texting has become a compulsion. I realize when I am doing it too often, but it's hard to stop. It's one of my main goals right now.

I stopped texting T except when she initiates for scheduling stuff, when she told me she was running low on her monthly texting plan. Awkward. I feel bad taking up so much of her time anyway, but the additional thought I was causing her to limit all texts was enough to get me to stop.

T and I talk about the email issue a lot. I've been getting A LOT better, and it's really helpful when T acknowledges that I've been doing well on that account. Right now, if I email T once per week, she'll send a quick reply. If I write again, she typically won't answer. Even though I know this, it's hard not to send more than 1.

I guess constant contact with T is kind of a huge issue for me at the moment. I think once I start having some other people in my life, it will (hopefully) get a bit easier.

I totally relate to this. I think I desperately feel the need to continue the connection with her after session. But it's probably not going to end well. I just feel I need to keep connected and the things are so bad ATM I don't know what I would do if I couldn't connect. Then I worry if she doesn't reply and I worry what she thinks of me. It's a mess really!

precious things · Nov 22, 2013, 05:07 PM

My T and I openly text though under most circumstances, it is confined to business hours (but I know I would get a response regardless of the content or timing)- obviously, our texts are therapy related or t offering supportive words. It's made a HUGE life-changing experience for me as knowing my t is literally a text a way helps to contain all the trust and transference issues that can sometimes distract from other important work.

Nov 22, 2013, 08:14 PM

We text every day. I check in, and she lets me know she hasn't died overnight. It's generally very short. I also text her if I'm feeling awful. It works for us, except when I'm feeling really distant, and then I hate it, or have a habit of not being terribly forthright with her.

Hope-Full · Nov 22, 2013, 09:00 PM

Nope. T is straight up phone calls from me. I leave messages whenever I need anything and T responds appropriately.

The first time T texted me I was quite surprised, especially considering T doesn't "do" texting with clients. Turns out that T just uses texts for schedule changes, that's all. Works for me.

tinyrabbit · Nov 23, 2013, 12:37 PM

I mainly text my T about scheduling. Sometimes about other stuff. More than I should. He replies if he thinks it's necessary and I really appreciate it when he does but I try to avoid it.

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