[DelusionsDaily]

Well, I have been feeling kind of strange lately. I guess It's more that my thoughts are really scattered lately. It's like I have this need to put all of the pieces together and get the full picture. The problem is all the pieces aren't there yet.

I mean my new therapist is great and so is group DBT. I have had a lot of ah-ha moments especially in DBT about how useful this skill or that skill could be and we've only discussed mindfulness so far. This is a huge step in the right direction compared to before when I just could not see anything useful about DBT.

However, I just can't seem to get myself to actually practice them before I will need them. And I am getting really down on myself for that. I know it take lots of actual practice to make these skills anything close to second nature. I feel like I am wasting their time if I can't get myself to practice these skills regularly and make them more if a habit.

And maybe it is just something I have to force right now. I mean it is not going to be second nature over night...right?

Thanks for reading. Not sure I am really looking for something here but if you want reply feel free.

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[DelusionsDaily]

So, I had T tonight. It was a really good session. It helps me to talk things through with her. We talked about a lot of things. But most importantly she is very excited about the progress I have been making over the several weeks I have been seeing her. It doesn't seem like much but she is making a big deal about it so maybe I'm minimizing my progress. I have really been focusing on practicing the mindfulness skills at least one a day for 5-10 minutes. Over the next couple weeks I will also incorporate the emotion regulation skills which I will be learning after the mindfulness. Anyway I always have some extra clarity after a session with her. It feels so good to feel like I'm really moving forward.

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[healingme4me]

Your title to the thread, states a level of feeling strange, it's discomfort. Stands to reason, if it feels strange, it's starting to have an effect. If it's having an effect, then change is happening. Rome wasn't built in a day

You could, very well be minimizing, as you mentioned. The fact, that you are desiring to practice, means it's on your mind. That counts, too.

[ThisWayOut]

I'm glad you are finding this helpful
Change can be a good thing.

[wotchermuggle]

You sound better Melissa. I know that probably sounds weird but you do!

[Daeva]

Thanks I needed to read this, my T and i are starting DBT on monday, and i'm quite nervous

[A Red Panda]

Melissa: You sound so much calmer and positive!

I'm glad that you like your new T and that you're working on some skills and moving forward! It's great to hear and I'm proud of you!

I get how it would seem strange to be making changes. I've had my own moments of strangeness lately with my T (twice now I've been brave enough to share how something he's said upset me... which is a terrifying experience for me. And twice now he's apologized and is sincere about it. I don't think I've ever been apologized to when I've been upset. I don't really know how to handle that. It's strange.) I think the strange/uncomfortable sort of feelings means that we're actually going outside of our comfort zones towards something more healthy (because let's face it, our comfort zones aren't healthy for us!).

I hope you'll keep us posted

[DelusionsDaily]

Thanks everyone....

Daeva...the only advice I can give is actually 2 pieces...1) if you don't understand how it will be helpful to your specific case....ask as many questions as you need till u understand, and 2) practice the skills a lot so they become second nature if you are not sure how ask.

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