[Aloneandafraid]

I read a really good article about this way of relating which was posted here a while ago. My T referred to this triangle this week and I really want to find out more. I don't remember who wrote this - sorry - any information would be gratefully - very gratefully received. I would love to find out more and take it to our next session. Thank you for reading and thanks in advance to anyone who can help. :thanks

[Aloneandafraid]

Thank you. Hope it's ok to start a new thread on a question like this? This is my first thread starter! Feel like I should apologise. Hope it's ok....

[iGottaBme]

Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid

I read a really good article about this way of relating which was posted here a while ago. My T referred to this triangle this week and I really want to find out more. I don't remember who wrote this - sorry - any information would be gratefully - very gratefully received. I would love to find out more and take it to our next session. Thank you for reading and thanks in advance to anyone who can help. :thanks

There are a number of versions on the Internet. This one may not be the best. I believe it is also called the abuse triangle as well, but I am not sure.

The Drama Triangle: Victims, Rescuers and Persecutors - Kellevision

Thanks iGottaBme for posting the link, and AAA for asking the question. I need to bookmark that site, and just post the link to it sometimes instead of getting myself in trouble on this site all the time. LOL.

[healingme4me]

Thanks for sharing, this one. read this, a couple years back, or one like this one. Speaks volumes, a good read, for those trying to comprehend how the cycle works, which, is, indeed, similar to this triangle.

[Aloneandafraid]

Originally Posted by Mastodon

It would have been good if there had been a trigger icon or some kind of warning there. Thanks.

Sorry Mastodon.

[Rive.]

Thank you Aloneandafraid for asking the question. I'd not come across this article before, interesting read actually.

PS: pls no need to apologise for starting such a thread. Besides, it takes guts to start a thread

[archipelago]

This may not be exactly what you are asking for but there is a famous essay by Ferenczi on how the victim relates to the persecutor, and sometimes identifies with them. It was important because at the time that phenomenon had not been explored at all and was very curious to understand. This was pretty particular to children, who want love so compromise to get it even if it actually puts them in a worse position. Ferenczi was a famous analyst so I'm sure this was based on working with adult patients who had internalized the victim role and on top of it that of the aggressor so was a challenge to the therapist who was called upon to be an emotional rescuer.