[RTerroni]

On Monday I finally get to have a meeting with my Psychologist. I am going to try (as much as I can) to talk about the difficulties I have with Therapy most notably my boundary issues (which many people on here have said that I struggle to see) and whether I go to Therapy for the right reasons or not. I would also like to get into the issue of touch in Therapy and what she thinks the appropriate boundaries for that are. I also think that if she thinks that it is a good idea that I go back to regular Therapy to tell her what my preferences are (i.e. someone who is Female and not too much older than me) in a Therapist, there is also a chance that I might just meet with her on a semi-regular basis. Let me know if you think that is a good approach to take.

I can also tell you that I would estimate that she is at least 10 years older than me and I also know that she is married (since she mentioned her Husband during a conversation about beards when I was talking to both her and my Primary Care Doctor about beards ), so that should ease (but not by any means eliminate) any urges I may have with her.

[FeelingOpaque]

Hope it goes well!

[RTerroni]

An interesting thing is that when they called me yesterday to confirm the appointment they told me that it was scheduled with my Primary Care Doctor, although he did say that I would meet with him first I was hoping that it would be very brief and would spend the rest of the time with the Psychologist without him in the room, if he is in the room the entire time than I think that I will be significantly limited in the things I will discuss since I don't think that I would want to talk about the most intimate things with him in the room.

It is also pretty significant (especially given my struggles to accept boundaries) if I meet with this Psychologist on a regular basis because not only is the office very close to where I live but it is also contained within a shopping center that I go to all of the time, including the supermarket there at least once a week (sometimes more just to pick up a few items) so the odds of me running into her are significantly greater, however it should be noted that ALL of the places (in the shopping center or elsewhere) in the immediate area of where I live are what I consider (Full) Public locations where my boundary lines are roughly the same as most Therapists (and Psychologists or any other Health Care Professional), so the odds of us meeting somewhere beyond that (where my boundary lines differ) are not much greater than they would be with someone who is in another part of the metro area.

[RTerroni]

Well tomorrow is the big day and needless to say I am feeling a bit nervous.

[Victoria'smom]

Good luck.

[Wren_]

I hope everything goes well with your meeting tomorrow

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by tigergirl

I hope everything goes well with your meeting tomorrow

Me too, I just hope that I am not too scared to say anything that I think I need to.

[Lamplighter]

Wishing you good luck took, hope it all goes well

[growlycat]

pocket rider here!

[RTerroni]

Well I just had the meeting and I am happy to say that I was able to bring up many of the things that I was a little nervous to talk about mainly the issue of touch (i.e. hugging which she picked up on almost right away) she told me that personally that she does not normally hug but is open to it in certain circumstances, which I assume would include a final meeting should I see her long term, and I told her that I feel the same way and would only want to hug on very special circumstances (mainly a final meeting). Interestingly she did put out her hand for a handshake at the end, which I gave even though like I have said before I don't really like handshakes (mainly due to the spreading of germs) but fortunately there was hand sanitizer in the room .

I also discussed boundries outside of Therapy a bit and hope to talk more about them when I meet with her again in a week. All in all I would say a pretty good session.