Santa Claus is coming to couch 68!!!!!

I had McDonalds for lunch

That's what I should've had. 5 bucks. Done.

3 dozen sugar cookies cutout, baked, and ready to be frosted... we will get to the messy part after dinner.. The kids are so excited to decorate them!!

Just got a call that the local army base will be closed tomorrow (where H works) so he doesn't have to go in.. Which means, he and I will drop the kids off at MIL's house and we will go Christmas shopping, then to basketball.. and I don't have to drive in the yucky road conditions!!

Yeah. Maybe a trigger warning next time. Like i was walking out of t on friday and his phone rang, and he said, you dont have to hurry just because the phone rang. And i realized that i HAD tensed up when it rang. So i relaxed when he said this was still my time. So i have tried to be more cognizant about not just dropping tidbits on the couch without warning - a lot of the fear factor is just the unexpectedness of it.

I am confused. You think my generic post about my belief people are able to like each other despite disagreement needs a trigger warning?

Couch poll...

If you purchased a gift for a spouse/significant other that is expensive and you know the person will love...would your feelings be hurt if they took the gift back and used the money to pay off a bill....talking about $500.

RTS, as much as I'd like to think I'd be gracious about it, I think my feelings might be hurt a bit by that. But on the other hand, if my friend was so strapped for cash that they needed to do that in order to pay a bill, I hope I'd want to help them out. It's a tough one.

I just got home from grocery shopping to prepare for having my family here for the week. The prime rib for Christmas dinner alone set me back over $100. It's a good thing I'm not a vegetarian. Oh, wait. I am.

RTS - I kind of think for me it would be like CL

RTS My feelings would be alittle bit hurt too. But as CL says if the person is trapped for cash....IDK

Granite Love the card.
I don't really have time to catch up on the couch, so I hope everyone has a good christmas and no too many triggering moments. Hope you all realx and enjoy yourselves.
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Ugh....my H and I keep our money separate...i saw he spent a lot of $ at a store and I'm guessing its for me...(I realize I could be very wrong) but I would rather pay off a debt that is in collections or replace my windshield that got a chip and has two large cracks running in different directions...and insurance doesnt cover it... Both things i dont have money for but worry about.

RTS - in that case - I would have a serious conversation with my partner. But usually we just tell each other what we want so for us, fixing a windshield would be not unusual.
You and your husband seem to have quite different approaches to money. I think if the present from my partner was something I really liked and never would have bought for myself, I would try focus on enjoying it.
Does he pay attention to things you like that you would not get for yourself in that fashion?

No. ..........

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No SD he usually doesnt buy me anything beyond a book or cd

Is it possible this is an attempt to show you he cares? Even if he is off with the actual item, in that case it would show he is trying.

I'm sure he is... I'm desperatly hoping its something he bought for himself or someone else...there are so many bills to be paid I couldnt justgify keeping anything that costs that much....

I think I'll just tell him not to spend a lot of money....maybe he would take it back himself before christmas...

For many years my dad's brother's family returned the gifts we gave them (which usually totaled a few hundred dollars) but I don't know what they used it on.

I on the other hand have NEVER returned a gift before. It would actually be hard for someone to return a gift I gave them because I don't give them the receipt with it .

I just tell my husband not to get me anything as I know we can't afford it. We haven't exchanged gifts with each other on Christmas in 3 to 4 years. Ill admit-that I miss when we used to do it-but we now just bite the bullet. We have lots of children in the family to buy presents for and it just fills my heart with joy to give the extra to them because small young children are so in the moment and actually really truly are happy with whatever they get.

On another note, we all tend from time to time to let emotions get in the way of logic. If that were me Ready, I would just tell my H that I really love it but wish he wouldn't have and ask him directly if he's okay with you taking it back (if the purchase is for you) but on the other hand, once someone hands you a gift-it's yours to do what you will with it. I'm sure your H knows your strapped for money so it will be fine to just tell him it's important to get the windshield fixed or pay off the debt.

I just told him the truth... I said I saw the bank account and if it was for me please take it back... He said he saved for it but I told him I could not in good conscious keep it knowing I owe $ for so many things so to take it back andd spend it on something he wanted or needed like fixing his car he dented the fender during snpw storm

I told him that I love that he thought to do it for me... and that I love he's been planning and saving for it... but its too much... He's not talking to me...

Yeah but being upfront was the logical thing to do. Sorry he's not speaking to you.

I need to go to go bed.

(((Ready)))

Goodnight couch.

The funny thing is he knows I have a bill that is in collections because he is the one who wasn't paying it because he didn't have the money when he was doing all of our bills. He never told me he stopped paying it until the collection agency called...

Sorry but I need to vent. I hate it when u have to "watch" people go through the pain of not doing the real work in therapy. Maybe it's harder for me because I just came from that place but no point in trying to post because all they want is everyone's sympathy vote. GRR! So frustrating.
It's not anyone on the couch.