[phaset]

Recently I finished an assessment which indicates that I likely have Asperger's. I don't have the final results yet, but my therapist was given a synopsis. I saw my therapist for the first time since she received it tonight.

After I arrived, she asked me a few quedtions about how it went and then read a few parts of the synopsis to me.

One of the recommendations was to refer me to a specific psychiatrist, which she wanted to try and get done as soon as possible, so with my permission she called and left a message with her. But then she started talking about how its not good to see more than one mental health professional at once, and if the psychiatrist was going to do therapy as well that I should either stop seeing her (current therapist) or put it on hold until later.

This seems reasonable so far, but then she started talking about how she hasn't treated anyone with Asperger's before. And she repeated that I would need to make a choice between seeing her and the psychiatrist. And then she mentioned something about how she ethically had to tell me this. She finished the session by saying that "the door is always open here". I was sad while she was telling me this, but I figured at the time that it was because I had things that I wanted to talk about but didn't get the chance. This session went totally different than any before.

On the drive home I think I pieced it together. I may be wrong but she thinks that I would be better off seeing someone else.

I feel horrible right now. She has helped me more than anyone ever has. I had hoped she would want to continue with me.

Am I seeing this right? I think she is giving a mixed message.

I've never contacted her outside of sessions, but I have her email. Should I ask for clarification as to what is going on? I don't see her again until mid January.

[Freewilled]

I think it would be a great idea to email her and ask for clarification. It sounds terribly confusing and difficult, and I see no reason why you don't deserve to have a more clear understanding about the situation

[Lauliza]

I agree that you should email your T in some way to get clarification from her. It sounds like your T was giving you very mixed signals so I understand why you'd feel lousy, I would too. I might also ask her why you can't see her and a psychiatrist. Most psychiatrists don't do therapy and many people see both.

[LolaCabanna]

perhaps she is just letting you know that she may not be the best fit for you if in fact this is the DX? I think that is good when a T can see they too have limitation and are truly looking out for what may be best for you and your future, but yes I'd want clarification too.

[PeeJay]

I wish this T could've been more clear.

You need to know whether T wants to continue to see you or not. Is T trying to look out for your best interest and telling you what she knows she should?

I would write to her and say, "Our session left me confused. My preference is to continue therapy with you. I have a connection and rapport with you that is not easily discarded. Do you think that is not advisable? Please help me to better understand what you were saying. It felt like you were strongly encouraging me to stop therapy with you. Was that what you meant or were you merely presenting me with options?"

Good luck to you.

[phaset]

Thank you all for the encouragement. I have just sent an email asking for clarification.