[skysblue]

.. but wish I could.

[CantExplain]

I'm sure your T will appreciate that.

[ShrinkPatient]

I was thinking about sending my T a Merry Christmas email but decided against it!

[Daeva]

Wish I could spend xmas with my T.

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by ShrinkPatient

I was thinking about sending my T a Merry Christmas email but decided against it!

Same here.

[rainbow8]

I understand the feelings. Neither T nor I celebrate Christmas, but on the holidays we share, I tell her good wishes at the session before the holiday.
It's hard to accept that we feel differently about our Ts than they feel about us.

On second thought, I don't think it would be wrong to send T an email saying "Merry Christmas", for those who are allowed to email, or would that be setting yourself up for disappointment if she didn't email back?

I send T a birthday card on her birthday, knowing I won't get one back.

Or is it the sense of intruding into T's personal time? Since I have trouble with boundaries, I'm wondering if you think that crosses a boundary.

[ShrinkPatient]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I understand the feelings. Neither T nor I celebrate Christmas, but on the holidays we share, I tell her good wishes at the session before the holiday.
It's hard to accept that we feel differently about our Ts than they feel about us.

On second thought, I don't think it would be wrong to send T an email saying "Merry Christmas", for those who are allowed to email, or would that be setting yourself up for disappointment if she didn't email back?

I send T a birthday card on her birthday, knowing I won't get one back.

Or is it the sense of intruding into T's personal time? Since I have trouble with boundaries, I'm wondering if you think that crosses a boundary.

I think mostly I just don't want to appear pathetic. OTOH I would also feel like I was was intruding on her time. I guess I feel like I do that enough. Especially, since she's coming back in the middle of her break to see me on Friday. (Btw: totally her idea and I would have refused but she is also seeing another patient and moving her office.)

[Daeva]

After intruding on my C on thanksgiving and getting verbally slain I would pass on xmas

[unaluna]

My t said he would think about me. He says that every holiday. It's kind of weird, isnt it? Like, when does he think about me? When he carves the turkey? Well, i did get him a team apron last year, so maybe if he wears that. I think ive been kind of intrusive but now i feel like im backing off, and he's not getting it. I needed his reactions before to know, to delimit myself; but now im trying to read my own reactions. And yeah, it would be nice if he could acknowledge those.

[Wren_]

are you ok sky?

[growlithing]

Same. I wish she'd email me a quick Merry Christmas because she knows how much that would mean to me, but I know she won't because contacting me usually only encourages me to keep talking plus Christmas isn't a big important holiday for me personally.

my t and i talked for a bit on christmas eve just to say hi to each other and that we were thinking about each other/ etc. it helped a lot as we hadnt had time to talk for a about ten days. she really wants to come home. christmas makes her home sick. i told her i have money stashed away to buy her plane ticket whenever she is ready Oh and on christmas morning we also texted t a christmas message.

like someone else said i dont think an email to wish your happy christmas. they dont have to respond, or check their email until they have time, so its fairly non intrusive.

[skysblue]

Originally Posted by tigergirl

are you ok sky?

Yesterday, xmas eve, I was in a very bad place emotionally and normally I would have texted my T just to reach out. She usually can respond in 6 or less words and be very helpful. Maybe it's just knowing that someone who knows you so well is aware that the times are pretty tough.

I did get through the day and today was much better. What we learn is that our T is helpful and desired but not always absolutely needed. We can manage.

I do have a session with her Friday so I'll be able to discuss with her more fully what had happened to me.