How important is the relationship for you?

I'm early in the process. With one of my T's, it's vitally important because of the intense maternal transference I developer. With another, it's not important at all to me. I'm not attached to her in the slightest. I guess I don't know how to attach to people. It's either completely intense or not at all.

I see where you're coming from and I agree therapy is a paid for service and it's supposed to be centered around the client's needs. But in my opinion, paying for it as a service does not always mean therapy is what you want it to be, just the way paying a doctor doesn't mean you'll get a prescription for any drug you may want. Many therapists do use the therapeutic resource at least at some point during treatment and it can be an important part of the treatment plan for some clients and for some Ts.

Great idea, writing always helps me more than talking because it is easier to communicate the hard stuff I would never say in person.
Best of luck and let us know how it goes

My relationship is very important with my T. I feel we have a great connection. However, I am having a tough time distinguishing the therapy relationship from a true friendship relationship. I am always hurt when I receive my weekly bill, why would a friend charge me? Or when he forgets significant things about my life, or mixes up details about my life with another client's. Sometimes I just want to help him with his business and tell him to review his notes thoroughly before he sees a client! I do not contact him between sessions, because I use to, and he would not always respond and I would get upset. So now, when he contacts me in between sessions I am so overwhelmed, I cry. It could be over the dumbest thing such as an appointment change. Oh my gosh, he is thinking of me! I feel my T has really helped me with many of my problems, he needs to now help me let go of him and get on with my life without him.