[purplejell]

Do you ever find it disappointing when your T comes back from holidays? Mine has been gone for 3 weeks. I was so happy about seeing her today. And then it felt like we were strangers. Before she left, we were so close and she was so empathic. Maybe over the course of so much time, and going through really hard stuff over the holidays... she becomes more ideal in my mind?

She seemed so positive and upbeat today and not as validating. It's probably me too. I go into my coping mode and really shut down while she's gone... and then I can't just let her back in that easily when she comes back. Somehow I imagined I would tell her all the things I've been wanting to say, but I couldn't. She tells me to give it time, wait another week. But it sucks after waiting so long.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by purplejell

Maybe over the course of so much time, and going through really hard stuff over the holidays... she becomes more ideal in my mind?

((Jelly))

That's probably the explanation.

[tametc]

Sorry it was disappointing. I like her advice, though, to give it time. Hope it gets better week by week.

[tooski]

Breaks are difficult. This happens to me too, which is why I hate them. It's not always possible to reconnect in a single session. Give it some time - if the connection was there before it will return.

[growlycat]

Yes!!! Breaks are hard---I feel a swell of emotion upon a reunion and I always hate that it seems like a bigger deal to me than for T. I want him to be as excited and relieved as I am.

Happens to me too. When fantasy & reality collide. But as T points out - reality isn't all bad. Than the internal realignment begins and low and behold T and I back together just as we always are. :-)