Emails between sessions?

I'm so pleased you can email now! To your heart's content

My therapist didn't want to hear from me unless I was sitting in front of him and the clock was ticking. Emails were brief, and cold and detached. I didn't even feel comfortable emailing him about anything. And then when my transference came up, oh lord, it was like agony, total and complete agony. And the biggest mistake I made was in telling him.

He'd be remote, cold and detached through out of office com, and then flirtatious and strange in the office. I used to think he was flirting with me....I'm not even sure why now. He was probably aware of my transference and was using it to make me uncomfortable enough to do what I did yesterday.

I wrote him an email, brief and detached as every single email he sent me and said I thought it was best I not return.

Haven't heard a peep since.

You know, I really feared this would sour me on therapy, but I'm looking for a new T and I intend to keep trying.

It breaks my heart when I see how good all your T's were to you. You all actually were getting loving humane people who cared about you and made it known they were available to you. Mine, just wanted my money and I know this now. I feel...cheap and like I was used.

As a yougin I had some real SEWER RATS!

My T doesn't have an email I can contact him at. But I can call if I am in a really bad place.

My T has allowed emails since the beginning I think, that time is a little blurry but she's never placed strict boundaries on the subject. I do worry a lot that I'm bothering her or intruding on her free time when I email after hours. She used to reply within a day or so, but since Christmas she's taken longer to reply (a week sometimes?) so I've stopped emailing so often. Nowadays I simply email her private practice address for appointment fix-ups and email her directly if it's something important - i.e. "I need to tell you something next session, don't let me chicken out".

I guess she's busier now than she was last year but I still miss our email conversations. We once emailed constantly for an hour whilst I was in a maths class - I miss that.

T used to encourage E-mailing. Now prefers that l don't and would rather l telephone if l am struggling. l am unable to telephone though.

My T does not do "therapy by email." He feels that emails are too open to misinterpretation and that it's more valuable to discuss things face to face, in session, where meanings can be clarified & discussed. He has said that he reads all emails (although he was honest enough to change that to 'scans') but he will not reply unless he considers it important. And he feels that determining what's important and what isn't is an art in itself. He will reply very quickly to emails regarding scheduling.

Different strokes, etc. Wish he was more flexible on this.

I email. I would prefer mine not to reply unless I ask a question because really there is nothing they can say. I started emailing because there was nowhere safe to put my writing at home and I have an urge to put it somewhere but it has kind of developed into something else where I appreciate that they read the email and it confuses me because....why do they read it when I said they don't have to. Or do they feel like they have to? In other words should I find a different way to vent or carry on with what I do? I did ask and they said it's ok and they use it to learn about me and that they just don't want to use it as therapy (thank god because I don't know how to do face to face therapy let alone email therapy haha) I would rather no reply and bringing it up at our appointments.

Mactastic and other people who have started emailing their T some time after starting therapy, how was the topic raised? Did you ask, or did they offer out of the blue?

I wish I could email my T sometimes, but I'm worried about two things: that I would abuse it (I'm more likely to abuse email than txt, I think - I can txt him, and do sometimes, but not often, maybe a couple of times a month on average), and that I would obsess about him not replying, which I don't think he would do. I would like to think I could be mature about it and have it as an outlet of things between sessions, that I would like to talk about in session, and not requiring an answer, but maybe I'd start worrying about if I did get the chance.

But I don't even know my T's email address, and I don't think he is very likely to give it to me unless I ask, and probably not even then. And I would not like to ask and get no for an answer, so I'm playing it safe.

I just did it. The email address is on the website, so I used it.
I also send letters by mail because I don't want responses usually. I just want to get stuff out and away from me. Whether the woman reads it or doesn't is not usually what concerns me.

I'm in the uk too and have very similar experience with contact out of session - mine will allow text but will never reply. It is a 'boundary'. It hurts as I feel I am only listened to in the 50 mins I pay for each week and no more. It just feels so abrupt. Also, you made me realise something - never any comment when, also out of politeness, I might say hello, are you well or something - just a polite smile (just!) no phone or email allowed.

I'm in the States. There is no contact, lest scheduling, between sessions. I'm perfectly fine with that.

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I raised the issue with my T because her card had her email on it and my husband asked if she let clients email. Her respond was yes. A couple weeks after I asked if I could email her instead of hand writing letters. She was very carful when telling me no. She said my notes are to personal to not be secure and any email goes in my file.

The very first time I reached out to him was via email. I found him on Psychologytoday.com and asked for a consultation. A few months later I had something big to tell him but I. just. couldn't. do. it.

I took a gamble and emailed him from the address I had from before. He responded and that was that. It was 6 months into my therapy when I asked him if I could use it as a form of journaling. He acted a little shocked. Apparently, he had told me before that was fine but I still don't remember that conversation.

I have never actually emailed T, but T did mention that I was welcome to email him (or write a letter or leave a voicemail) if there's something I wanted him to know that I couldn't bear to tell him in person.

I asked if t had an email address that I could use. The next session she gave it to me.

I've e-mailed my xT only in order to schedule the appointment and would never e-mail him in crisis etc. But my consulting T said that I can e-mail her and I've already done it - it's rather like journaling but with sending all thoughts away so that I don't have to think about them anymore... For the first e-mail which I've sent she didn't respond and I was okay with it; however, she has printed it and brought to discuss in the next sessions which I find pretty nice. For another e-mail she responded because it was about terminating another T and I asked her a question. For the last e-mail actually I wrote "please do not respond" and I mentioned that she even doesn't "have to" read it as I just wanted to get rid of some thoughts... For this e-mail actually she did respond... And we'll discuss it at the next session further...