Things about your therapist you don't like.

I don't like that she's often late... like up to 40 minutes... and that our session vary a bit in length.

And I wish she would let go a bit of the job issue so we can concentrate on other things as well, I know getting a new job is essential, but what good will it do if I start to SI again because we don't talk about anything else.

I can't think of anything, but I've never been one to be bothered much by other peoples' quirks or foibles. God knows I have enough of my own. I think I just have much bigger fish to fry than to any way fret over trivialities.

Why are you still with her? You can get that kind of behavior.....free from a lot of other people.

Have you told her this? Therapy is supposed to be about YOU and what YOU want to talk about. You are paying for a shoddy service. You wouldn't put up with a repairman not doing his job.

I hate that she repeats stories she's told or makes bad jokes when she doesn't know how to respond

I have my reasons. Some include: She is not unuseful in some ways. It just means i have to be wary and handle it more closely. I see 2 of them and the second is different from the first one. I find it interesting to see the differences.

To be honest I got used to her being late, and I know most of the time it's not her fault. She's a Pdoc and has emergencies on a quite regular basis. Not much she can do about that, and I know she cares a lot about all her clients, so wants to give everyone as much time as poossible. When I've been doing particularly bad we've had sessions last for up to 2 hours... that only happened once or twice, but on those days I really needed it.

And yes lately she's been pushing the job issue a bit too much, but last week I had SIed for the first time in months, so we spent the session on that. The main problem is she doesn't want us to work on the CSA issue as long as I still have the same bedroom it all happenned in. I think I could handle it, but she's got serious doubts and doesn't want to take that risk. So even though we don't always talk about what I would like, I know she has my best interests at heart. I trust her, and she has already helped me change my life around. I am doing so much better than when I first started seeing her.

I can't think of anything bad. I'm very relaxed and cheerful in general about quirks and foibles people have (I have loads!) and in general I believe if someone is kind and most of the time tries to act from a place of kindness, that far and away outstrips any little irritating things they do. I genuinely can't actually think of anything that annoys me about my therapist at all - however I know if she was a friend or a lover or a colleague instead of a therapist there'd be a few for sure, same as anyone else I've ever encountered! I don't get to see the version of her that gets in a crabby mood because she's starving and tired, or who sometimes leaves disposable contact lenses beside the basin in the bathroom, or who hogs the clothes horse for days at a time (ok I do all these things and have no idea what my therapist's flaws are, they're just examples!).

I don't like that he knows me.

That's a serious breach of confidentiality- he should lose his license for it. Have you considered quitting and/or reporting your T's behavior?

Have you told him that?? For the first couple of weeks my T called me by my full first name even though I mentioned they name everybody called me. I asked her to please call me by my nickname..she has ever since then.

I hate the fact that she says things easily that surprise me and make me feel overwhelmed and then forgets she said them. Such as you can bring your dog to the session and he can sit in my garden, we should do a piece of writing together, I will pitch it to a mental health magazine (never mentioned again in 3 months).

I don't like when her hair looks curly.. It Seems rougher., I like when she keeps it straight .. It's a softer look to me

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I hate the fact that she is out on sick leave for a month. I hate that she sits so far away in sessions. And she is nice and sweet, but sometimes I wished she was more. I hate that she is not very open to talking about the past. But mostly I am just really missing her right now.

There is nothing I can think of that I don't like about either my ex therapist or my psychD trainer. They are both awesome women in their own right. They have very different styles, yet I get so much from both of them.

Yeah I also don't like when T puts her hair up...it looks much nicer down, suits her and she looks more motherly

I don't like how he begins sessions. Once I'm settled on the couch he simply says, "Welcome" and then sometimes, "How are things?" He told me he does it to give his clients an opportunity to lead the session wherever they want but I find it awkward. I rarely know how to respond and it usually results in an awkward "I'm ok" followed by a long silence. It's funny because I told him I hate that "welcome" and he chuckled. He said he learned it from his therapist, and he hated it, too. We both laughed about it. It leaves me wondering why he still starts sessions that way. But I don't ask him to stop because the uncomfortable start only lasts a minute and really, how else can he start?

No, I haven't. Mostly because I don't know what alternatives there would be. I don't use a nickname. Have him call me "Mrs. Lastname"? That's a little awkward. Just "you"? I don't know.
It took me 10 years to tell my own husband not to use my name. I've only known T since November.

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my T
- puts one label words to TRY to describe what I am saying pulling it out of context.
It shows he does not understand me.
- he has faked emotional responses. I told him about it, and he admitted to it. Now he does it less...(only less?)
- When I disagree with him, or make a statement to him. He tells it to me like he is instructing ME (???) I reply and said, " I already said that to you."
- When I confront him with something I have disagreed with, his answer sidetracked from
him answering me directly.
- He compare things with other situations or people that has nothing to do with my mind
or thoughts.
- I have been with him over a year and he has given no guidance.
- When he speaks its mostly empty talk and useless (vague answers)
- He has actually cut off the 45 min. in conversation because he was not getting payed
to talk to me after that time. No one was waiting to be next. ...
- He has lied to me.
- He plays dumb about when I confronted him about lying to me.

He has change some behaviors when I corrected him or confronted him about things. It still seems FAKE.

I have told him last before...that he is completely damaging to me and has done all damage to even help me.

Then he makes the next appointment and I come back. ...because each week I feel like I have to resolve it and confront him and its something new every week for the next.

He sounds terrible. Why do you keep going back?

1. She has been on the other side of the world for the past two years

It really took me a long time to come up with something.

My T mentioned something twice that is wrong, but I didn't want to challenge him on it because I felt like I would be challenging his training if I did so.

He said bipolar 2 is less severe than bipolar 1, which is not true. It's just a different form.

I don't like it that I don't think she can help me beyond cheering me up for the moment (lifting my spirits as she puts it) at least when I'm distracted from awareness that I'm paying for it and beyond making me feel better that she isn't pushing me to quit like my last therapist did. (I believed therapy could help before that.) I don't think it's her fault though.

I wish she was more dedicated to her job (ie. starting appointments on time, being more organized, and not being on her phone during our appointments)

I dislike her assumption making tendencies and her ability to read my mind.