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Old Sep 01, 2015, 09:02 AM
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So I guess I did something stupid.

I wrote an ex-T, what she meant in our last session when she gave me a referrel ( I was giving one, as she was going on a vacation and I was quite a mess ) and said:

" This will be an opportunity to see how you affect other people"

" Learn how to write"
( I didnīt want to put my feelings down on paper between sessions and she told me it was ok before, not to do so)

" Itīs not realistic that you become xxx , you know that donīt you?
"( something careerwise, that she had told me was perfectly fine before)

" Take care of your boyfriend" ( Didnīt say feel better to me ect. when we said goodbye )

Iīm I overreacting and stupid for asking her in an e-mail ?

I just canīt stop thinking about it and it was at the end of our last session.

Just feel like she must have been faking it, while I was her client and I felt overwhelmed by her remarks.
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Old Sep 01, 2015, 03:57 PM
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I would also have been distressed if a T had said those things to me on a last session. I don't think that sending an email for clarification. I can imagine how those words could hung over you casting a bit of a shadow. I hope she gives you helpful clarification - or even offers one last session to discuss?
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Old Sep 07, 2015, 10:08 PM
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Would you " expect an answer " or have I made a complete fool of myself ? I can handle the truth. Itīs been a month since I wrote her...
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Old Sep 10, 2015, 07:21 AM
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Would you " expect an answer " or have I made a complete fool of myself ?
I would say neither. Many T's choose not to have further contact with ex clients after termination, but that's not to say it is foolish to ask. You wanted clarification on those issues and you had every right to ask for it. Her silence after a month suggests she won't respond. She said some hurtful things and it doesn't sound like she handledthe termination particularly well, but I think it would probably be best for you to try to move forward, and accept you won't get the answers you want from her.
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Old Sep 10, 2015, 08:12 AM
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Did she email back?
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Old Sep 10, 2015, 08:32 AM
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I wish that t's were taught in school just how much of an effect they can have on their clients especially when they say stuff like that and then won't clarify. I'm sorry that happened to you.
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Old Sep 15, 2015, 01:33 AM
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Did she email back?
Nope. So I guess she never will. Iīve heard of " doorknob statements " from clients, but not from Tīs. I literally handed her money when she said some of those things.
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