[Freewilled]

Have you ever said "goodnight" to your T when you left? Is that a typical way to say goodbye? Just wondering as I usually say have a good week or have a good weekend or whatever but I left out of sorts tonight and had major transferential stuff going on, which I usually am able to package up a few minutes before I leave the therapy room but was very unable to this time. I muttered it under my breath....kind of ridiculous. Makes me feel a bit childish. My T just said have a good week or some such other cordiality.

[confused and dazed]

I'm the last one for the night. T always says " see ya next week", and I repy, yep. LOL A few times, he has said have a good week or take care. I always just say yep or thank you.

[learning1]

I have the latest evening appointment. I'm not sure. I think I usually say thank you or just bye.

[HazelGirl]

I haven't, but I guess I could if I wanted to.

[Auntie2014]

Depending on time of day I might use Good Morning,Afternoon or Evening as a greeting when I arrive but never use any of them when leaving.

[Leah123]

I have said goodnight.

My therapist has warmly said to me "Have a good night." "Sleep well." "Hope you have sweet dreams."

I have PTSD... sleeping's tough sometimes, as I imagine it is with many other conditions, and her expressing those wishes really help comfort me sometimes.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by Freewilled

Have you ever said "goodnight" to your T when you left? Is that a typical way to say goodbye? Just wondering as I usually say have a good week or have a good weekend or whatever but I left out of sorts tonight and had major transferential stuff going on, which I usually am able to package up a few minutes before I leave the therapy room but was very unable to this time. I muttered it under my breath....kind of ridiculous. Makes me feel a bit childish. My T just said have a good week or some such other cordiality.

I only have night appointments and we always walk to our cars together since it is dark. I always say goodnight and she says "have a goodnight, take care of yourself" most of the time, or some variation of that. The only time she has said goodnight is if I have to text her for some reason after session and we both say goodnight.

I don't think it makes you ridiculous or childish at all! It's not as if you have to be a certain age to be allowed to say it. Therapists try to remain cordial to protect your boundaries, but I believe it is possible for some client/T relationships to be more formal and professional and others to be more casual.

[Fuzzybear]

I say thank you (I think)

[gayleggg]

I always says good night and he says drive safely.

[RTerroni]

I'll usually just say "I'll see you next week" if anything at all.

[IndestructibleGirl]

I've said it on late-ish calls to my therapist at 10 or 11pm, and probably on later sessions where we wrap up at 9 or 10pm. Didn't cross my mind to think "goodnight" was a childish turn of phrase! To me it is not

[Freewilled]

Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl

I've said it on late-ish calls to my therapist at 10 or 11pm, and probably on later sessions where we wrap up at 9 or 10pm. Didn't cross my mind to think "goodnight" was a childish turn of phrase! To me it is not

It just felt childish at the way it came out of my mouth....I normally leave more like on professional terms and say have a good weekend, have a good week etc. and we shake hands. But T didn't shake my hand last night - first time ever. I guess I'm afraid my T noticed and thinks badly of me. I know I'm not in the best frame of mind right now - not doing too well

[ar2004]

My T is the one who says "have a good week" or "have a good weekend" and I usually just respond "you too" or "see you next week."

We say goodnight, sweet dreams, love you, goodbye, whatever. How come you are stressing over a word?

[nottrustin]

When she gives me a hug I always say "thank you". Then when I walk out the door I will either say have a good weekend or if I know she is traveling out of state for the weekend to see her child or boyfriend I will say have a safe trip.

[Freewilled]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

We say goodnight, sweet dreams, love you, goodbye, whatever. How come you are stressing over a word?

I don't really know why I'm stressing over a word......I think it's cause I've had a semi-rupture with my T and I feel out of control. And I don't know what's going on inside of me and in the therapy room. It feels like my T has it all figured out but I'm kept out of the loop. And sometimes I feel like my T can see inside me like I'm transparent but when I look down at myself there's nothing there. Anyways, Im sure it's not important.

[HazelGirl]

Originally Posted by Freewilled

I don't really know why I'm stressing over a word......I think it's cause I've had a semi-rupture with my T and I feel out of control. And I don't know what's going on inside of me and in the therapy room. It feels like my T has it all figured out but I'm kept out of the loop. And sometimes I feel like my T can see inside me like I'm transparent but when I look down at myself there's nothing there. Anyways, Im sure it's not important.

This actually sounds very important. It seems that these are things you need to bring up with your T if you aren't already. It can be scary, but it's important.