[Shiny Things]

So I'm still trying to accept and trust a new T. It's been weekly for a few months, with a couple of extra sessions thrown in.

Anyway, I've been having issues relating to my husband. I talk about him a lot, and I mean every session. From the start, I used his name. Like "my husband (name) did this...".

My Friday session opened my eyes. This T started to say something profound I'm sure, but then asked " what is your husband's name?" I just answered like it didn't faze me. I don't want to bring it up to T until I sort out my thoughts on it (I have till Friday to stew about it).

Is T just not listening, doesn't care or what? It feels like a big deal to me. Would you care?

[Canyon]

My T often forgets things that I tell him. I have just tried to look at it realistically, he has many clients who tell him sooo many things about themselves, families, work, friends and so on. He would have to be a government super computer to be able to call up all of that info on a moments notice.

I don't think that it necessarily means that your T doesn't listen or care. I think it is just the result of them being human and dealing with so many people every day.

[HazelGirl]

Some T's just have trouble with details, I would guess. I try to assume mine doesn't remember the small details, and so I repeat them whenever they come up. She surprises me sometimes with remembering them, but I don't have that EXPECTATION that she will.

[Leah123]

Sure, therapists might be busy, but if they are too busy to consistently remember key facts, that's an issue worth resolving. I think knowing your husband's name, if you have mentioned it several times, is a reasonable expectation. I would bring it up with her as I would definitely care and be concerned about her attentiveness. The therapist doesn't need to remember your favorite color, but they do need to remember your history- they can't just do the deep work if they don't hold a sense of the bigger picture, and it sounds like hubby is a huge component of yours.