Gah! Madame T has written me a letter!

HAHA that is nothing they recently gave a teaser for the 2nd season of "Under the Dome" and that ended it's 1st season with a 9 month cliffhanger (since the series only airs in the summer).

I've decided to open it just before we go for our walk.
W says it is too hot to walk.

What did it say? Inquiring minds want to know.

CE, you're killing me!! Don't we have any rights here??

"Dear CE,
It was interesting to see how you value your [feminine] side - and good to see.
Thank you
Warm regards
Madame T"

Thanks for this, CE. How does it feel to you?

CE,

I hope its a good letter.

Looking back, my biggest fear was that she didn't love me any more. That fear is allayed.

I was also concerned that she didn't want to hear from me. That fear is allayed.

Finally, I was afraid that even if she loved me and read my letters, I would never find out. That fear is allayed.

So it was a positive response, not the best possible, but definitely good.

And I have established that snailmail is the way to go. My snailmail letter was almost a duplicate of a previous email, to which there had been no response.

Hmm. I'm glad it was positive.

But, wow, super short. Almost like, what's the point?

But then again, it was positive and you can't knock that.

I hope this provides you some relief and closure.

I'm so glad you got a response. It felt warm to me, which made me happy for you. My old T would often sign off with "warm regards", so that phrase in itself has a positive vibe for me.

I hope this can help you to heal even more.

It's an acknowledgement. The real message is: I'm not ignoring you. And that is very much the message I needed to hear.

Madame T hates to put anything in writing. Whether that is therapeutic policy, natural reserve, or sheer dyslexia, who can say?

It does provide relief. If it establishes the boundaries of our new relationship, perhaps it gives closure too?

Wow, this makes it even better. Her strong aversion to putting things in writing could have been an easy excuse for her to not respond at all, so I find it even more significant that she wrote to you. And, she didn't have to say "warm regards". The "warm" is also significant, I think. Have I mentioned how happy I am for you?

I am so glad it helPs you feel better!!
Definitely understand the importance of acknowledgement-- it would mean so much to me if my ex t had just acknowledged ANYTHING i sent her after she dumped me. Just anything at all.

Really happy for you!!

I'm so glad it is positive and helpful for you!!

I feel that "warm regards" is a stock formula, and don't attach much significance to it. She sometimes used "love", which is warmer.

But "Thank you" is new.

I'm so glad you had a positive letter!!!

I'm very happy for you!!

I'm feeling much more positive about Madame T. I might even go see her. But she can never again be my therapist.

sooooo glad youre feeling better about her

Why????

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Why do I want to see her? Because I still love her.

Why can't she be my therapist? Because she's not supportive enough. Because she doesn't respect my Aspergers. Because the more I ask the less she gives. Because she has countertransference and refuses to see it. Because I still have not forgiven her. Because she's cold and hard. Because we do not understand each other.

It seems like you sort of have a Love/Hate relationship with her.

Um... That has occurred to me.

The Secret Reason Why You Can't Stop Hating Your Ex | Psychology Today

This may have some relevance.