Therapy-does it work?

Very true, there is also the issue of the client not really knowing where to start or what to do...and not getting much guidance from the therapist. I've ran into that a lot like the therapist just says 'what do you want to talk about' 'what do you think would help.' 'what do you think we should do' and I suppose I feel like well I am coming to you for help with these things since I don't know.

Someone said above "I think it works for some things, some times, for some people" which is true. People are so complicated. They can't draw blood, say Ah your potassium is low, here is the cure, more potassium, ta-da. We're relying on humans, who fail miserably at times, to fix a very complex, layered, problem. Sometimes I think therapy makes it all worse. So many times I walk out and feel like everything I settled down, she shook back up and then left me hanging... So I think for some things, it helps a lot. Having someone to talk to about insights, who is a removed third party and trained on how to listen well (validate, reflect, non-judgmental) is invaluable to me. But sometimes my therapist steps on land-mines and blows everything to hell.

I love this, it's exactly what seems to happen with my T - nothing small and low level, but big blow up land mines! And the most recent only yesterday.

I have to admit I'm going through a 'is this T just a dud like all my others' phase at the moment, but I'd like to chip in and say that generally I think there are more rubbish therapists out there than half way decent ones. And yes probably a lot of it devolves to personality fit and that indescribable je ne sais quoi, but having seen over thirty therapists in my life and many of them for long periods at a time, and STILL struggling to make therapy work for me, I often feel bulldozed by the idea that there's something so terribly wrong with me, that I'm unfixable, that I'm a bad client blah blah blah.

But in fact, I think it's down to lousy or badly trained, or superficial, or lazy or plain unintelligent and unempathic therapists. I've seen too many crap ones in my travels to ever believe otherwise anymore.

I also maintain though, for some weird reason, a faith in therapy, as an idea anyway, and that it has the potential to work. I guess the trouble is, our issues are caused by being human, and therapists themselves are human all too human - nothing you can do about that. Just hope and pray that if you get a crap one, you don't get too badly damaged before you can bail...

I bl00dy hope so, or I have just wasted thousands of pounds, litres of tears and far too much energy, for nothing!

I have only had 2 therapist and my first one I did CBT, My current one now said we should end therapy, I wonder if she thinks that therapy isn't helping me, I find it so hard to open up to my T so I also think that maybe she wants therapy to end because I find it hard to talk in therapy, So many questions, Does therapy work? I think it does but you have to make the changes in life therapists are there to guide and help you.

My nurse is going to talk with my T as she thinks I still need therapy, Hopefully I can stay in therapy