[anxiety247]

I am kind of confused and wondering if I am about to be dumped by my therapist. I had an appt today and I was talking about many things going on. She said I would have to choose one thing I want to work on. I said my anxiety - but that is heavily intertwined with a bunch of trauma(s) She said she was going to throw some psycho-babble at me and that is when she mentioned transference and counter-transference and would have to consult with someone about my care. I didn't have time to ask what she meant because time was up and she had a patient waiting.

I have googled what this means. I have met with my therapist only 3-4 times. There is no romantic interest. She doesn't remind me anyone (ex family/or my ex) The counter-transference I kind get is it something I could have said in session that triggered the therapist?

I am confused...

[withoutthelove_]

Transference and counter-transference doesn't HAVE to be romantic/erotic/maternal, etc. For example, I sometimes do exposure therapy with my T for my eating disorder, and once when we shared a Freddo Frog, she told me that she experienced counter-transference anxiety, because I was so anxious about eating a Freddo Frog; make sense?
So your T's counter-transference could be any feeling that's been elicited within sessions; it doesn't have to be negative either. She's unlikely to terminate you due to transference, however if she's unable to help you, she may transition you onto another therapist.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Are you able to email her or call her to seek clarification?

[HazelGirl]

Your story may be triggering for your T in a way that makes it hard for her to remain objective with you. It happens. And transference toward her can be negative as well, such as extreme fear or anger that she doesn't really deserve.

[anxiety247]

That's for the responses. I called the therapist and asked her what she meant by that and she said simply it wasn't anything I said or done. She just doesn't know where I want to start to tackle my anxiety. I will talk to her in more depth in which path I decide to go. I guess when you say you want to work on anxiety it can be sort of vague. I mean right now because of the anxiety I am going through the worse isolation I ever been through and the social anxiety doesn't help matter - I guess underneath those two are the reasons why ??? childhood abuse/sexual abuse that I will have to talk about in 1st time in 30+ yrs - that is scary but I need to do this to be free