Questions

Hi. I am new at this. I have never done anything online before so I hope I get it right. I have some questions regarding therapy. I am also new to that. I tried it once before but I wasn't there for me. This time it is for me. It is kind of scary and I am not sure I am doing it quite right. Can you fail at therapy? Well if you can I think I am, and if you can't then I guess I will be the first. I was wondering if it was alright to ask questions - I have alot and I am way to chicken to ask my therapist.

it would be awfully hard to fail at therapy. i think you'd have to be truant to do that.........

ask any questions that you want and also make a list of questions for your T. they need to know what you need and where you are in life...........xoxox pat

Asking questions in therapy is good. It helps you to really think about the process and what you are doing or learning, and also to make sure that you and your T are on the same page.

Don't worry about failing therapy. You always can have another chance if you need it, whether with the same T or a different one. If you ask the right questions, and keep trying to learn, you will do just fine.

I really don't think that you can fail at therapy ... as long as you go in there with an open mind and are willing to talk, then things should work out. If you just started therapy, i'd give it a little more time before you decide if you dont like it. Sometimes it takes a while for you to decide if your "clicking" with someone ... and if your not, thats okay too. You can always look for another one.
And the more questions you can ask the better imo, if you have trouble expressing it to them, you could even try writing some stuff down ... i know that's helped me before

Feel free to PM if you ever have any questions
Jacq

I have been in therapy since May - although where we started is not where we currently are. I like and respect my T very much. He is a kind soul and has helped tremendously in some areas. But I am not sure what we are currently doing. He says he sees alot of improvement, I have made alot of major life changes recently and life has been very difficult. The problem is that I think that I think about therapy way to much. Everyweek he asks me how the week was, how the kids are, have there been any crisis', etc. So we talk about the week and the kids and any major changes. When I first started he told me he gave homework and he understood that I didn't have much time, so he would be careful with how much he gave me. He has never given me any homework, except awhile ago he gave me a workbook and asked me to look at it and let him know what I thought. I took it home, I had reservations but the following week when I went back is when we switched what we were working on. I understand why we switched and he explained it to me. A few weeks ago he said that when the time was right we would go back to what initially brought me into therapy but that I was currently not well enough???? What does that mean? I am sure he is compentant and knows what he is doing but I wish I knew.

Those are good questions. You should probably ask him what he means. You could also bring up the workbook and see if you can tell him what you think of it, even if that isn't what you are doing now. But if you had reservations, maybe it is best to wait a while on that.

Well that is the problem, I don't want to ask him these questions. I don't want him to be angry with me or be insulted that I might be questioning him. I know that I need therapy very much and if I upset him - he might not want to see me anymore. I can't start over with someone else - it has been a long tedious road so far and he has figured many things out as I don't talk much. Although I talk a great deal more now.

he doesn't sound as if your asking questions would make him angry. a good T won't be angry because the patient has questions and wants answers.

try one question at a time.........baby steps........xoxoxo pat