Your t as a significant other

I want T to be my significant other meaning my romantic partner.

I'm sorry your session was so hard, monalisasmile. I hope you can reach a place where you can allow yourself to really trust that your T will be there for you. She seems like an awesome T.

Even though I get how scary all of this is for you, it also warms my heart My T in many ways has been a significant other although not my only one. I agree it's such a gift when someone is willing to go there with you.

I am of the same opinion, though I doubt that her "acceptance" of my issues and sexual preferences are nothing more than professional. However, if she actually lives/acts as she does during therapy, I would love her as my partner.

Gestalt is existential and focuses on the here and now but she goes right back to my childhood but as me now, what I need to say to my mother now and what I need now that I didn't get back then. Mostly what my inner child needs.
The group you were in sounds fantastic rainbow, perhaps now you will be cutting down sessions with your own t you could join another group like this?
My t is solid like a rock and consistent- I know she will hold me through this!

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Hi Mona : )
She sounds like an excellent T. She sounds a little like my T. She is stirring up emotions .. that is usually when we learn about ourselves. ..hang in there : ):hug

Hey 1step nice to see you back again
Thanks everyone for the thoughtful replies
She is stirring up a lit in me and these feelings come with a price because I am yearning for her to be my mother. I know she can't be but I trust her and last night she asked how it was fore to be so vulnerable with her. It is nice because I can be a little girl around her, she hands me tissues when I cry and pours me water when I cough, she talks to my wounded parts and before I know it they answer.
I have never been so honest with anyone before.

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I just long for my T to respond like this. I think it would be really healing and may just result in a breakthrough? But how do I bring it up when she is just so.... Quiet and cold. I managed to say something about not getting hugs as a child at which point I wanted her to ask me if I needed one now but nothing - she just doesn't go there or respond. But she's very experienced -30 years - and is very 'safe' according to the person who recommended her to me. Just reinforces what I'm not getting when I read posts like these.

I didn't ask mine or mention my inner child, she just knew what I needed from the first time I saw her. I find it best to let a t know what you need because if we presume they know or secretly hope for or expect them to react a way we want it doesn't happen and it is disappointing.
Alone, I really think you can tell your t that you need a hug, she might not agree but would be willing to discuss it, I am sure!
She may be safe but you need a human being too

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I just can't get passed that the term 'significant other' does in my mind refer to an intimate relationship. So it would creep me out if my therapist wanted to be my 'significant other.' Due to that I still don't see this therapist as being your 'significant other' but rather someone very supportive you can trust..I just know I would be very uncomfortable if my therapist used the term significant other in any sort of reference to our relationship.

Thanks hellion, good point and I did think that too. I think she knew what I was thinking because of my shocked face and explained that it is not about sexual intimacy but more about emotional intimacy and if I could let her she could be that for me

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