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May 09, 2014, 04:26 PM
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Ok I know this is really really dumb and I don't know why but I get so annoyed when I post something and then watch it fall down with no or little replies. It's like I get jealous watching the other ones go above mine. Sorry but for some stupid resason I wanted to share this. I know that it is really dumb to even admit it, but that's just dumb me.
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#2
May 09, 2014, 04:29 PM
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lol, I think that's common on a forum!
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#3
May 09, 2014, 04:51 PM
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| Aloneandafraid, Anonymous37892, Mactastic
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May 09, 2014, 05:05 PM
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No, it's not dumb to admit it. It's honest.
 I've felt the same way many times, especially when I write about something good that happens in therapy and no one responds. I do know that many people read threads but don't respond. I do that too. It hurts when you're the one checking to see if anyone cares about you. But it's not that no one cares; there are many reasons people don't respond. If your thread goes off the page but you want more responses, you can always post in it again, which will bring it back to page one. I admire you for bringing this up. Sometimes it's hard to "break in" to the forum, but I, for one, will pay more attention to your threads. Also, sometimes people don't know what to say. I like giving hugs and thanks for those reasons; at least the poster knows I read their thread! I just looked and saw that you got 48 replies to your thread about your T calling you an US. That's a lot! Another thread got 13. So, does it bother you when your threads end? Do you feel forgotten then? Just wondering because I sometimes feel like that. |
| always_wondering, AnIslandNeverCries, Favorite Jeans, tealBumblebee
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May 09, 2014, 07:16 PM
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Well, not dumb, but maybe a little over sensitive, kinda like me. It feels like rejection to have your thread seemingly ignored, and one ignored thread seems to loom larger than 10 busy ones. Not very rational, but hey, we're in therapy, right? ;-)
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#6
May 09, 2014, 08:00 PM
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it's not dumb.
 when people post a lot others get to know them so they get more responses. when you're newer people just don't know you yet. so, if you post regularly you will get more responses. that is how it seems to me to work.
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May 09, 2014, 09:06 PM
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#8
May 10, 2014, 03:53 AM
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It's not dumb. It's human.
You can know, rationally, that there are a lot of reasons why people don't reply: everybody here has thir own issues, somebody might read and feel a lot for you but not know what to say, somebody might intend to reply later and forget to do it, somebody might write a reply and think it sounded dumb and delete it, somebody might start replying and be called away from the computer.... you can know all this but that doesn't change how much it hurts to feel ignored. You are not alone in feeling this, for whatever it's worth.
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May 10, 2014, 10:03 AM
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And then there are people ahem who have been so well trained never to articulate their issues that they dont even start their own threads, so they never have to worry about never getting a reply. They know that in space no one can hear them scream. Space being defined as any space they happen to be in. How can i spend so much freakin time on this site and never start any freakin threads? What is wrong with me?? Sorry dont mean to hijack.
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| Anonymous200320, rainbow8
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| JustShakey
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#10
May 10, 2014, 10:14 AM
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(sorry I didn't want to spy, but I was extremely curious if it is really possible to spend here much time, write a lot but still not start any thread  ).Coming back to the topic, I also do not thing that it is not dumb but very human and many people do care what others think about us, if they like us, if my post will be read, and someone cares enough to respond etc...
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| unaluna
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May 10, 2014, 10:29 AM
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yet another reason not to hold stuff back in session (or here), you never know what might come of it.
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#12
May 10, 2014, 12:31 PM
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And you thought it was dumb to post this? lol....look how much talk you got! Alot of times I don't respond is because of my own bad feelings about myself. I don't feel important enough or smart enough to respond. I feel like "why would someone care what I have to say?"......I try and MAKE myself get involved and I seem to do it in spurts....so here I am again....on another spurt.
Thanks for sharing that--you got me to speak! |
| unaluna
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#13
May 10, 2014, 12:37 PM
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May 10, 2014, 06:39 PM
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Thanks everyone for the replies and all the hugs too.
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| JustShakey
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#15
May 11, 2014, 10:50 AM
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It's not dumb. I feel the same way sometimes, not just on a forum but generally. Sometimes it happens, it's part of life. In my case, if it happens repeatedly or if it's a concern for me, I try to do something different the next time, to get more response. Try reading more of the posts and threads which get lots of responses and see if there's anything in common. Anyway, it's usually not personal, it's just that people tend to respond when they feel they have something to say, maybe they relate, they have advice, or it's by someone they got to know ... don't give up posting! & you could always reply to your own post just to bump it - some days are just busy and threads get on the second page without many people even seeing them.
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