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May 18, 2014, 02:06 AM
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Being BPD and being that I'm very socially inept....oftentimes my T may be about the only one I talk to all week and certainly the only one who knows me or that I talk to about bigger issues, etc.
I can always have a hug if i ask for one, and I know he truly cares about me. He has been incredibly patient, secure and authentic with me. He understands that I'm often in a lot of emotional distress during the week to hold on to the hug or his voice of reason during these difficult days. Sometimes I wish I could take some photos of him to help me stay connected so that I don't get so very anxious and alone. I'm always terribly afraid to ask for this...tangible proof of his existence and support. Do you think it would be an unrealistic and innapropriate request to make? I'm actually pretty good with a camera... Thanks, WB
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#2
May 18, 2014, 02:53 AM
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Well, it couldn't hurt to ask, as long as you're aware that he may not be comfortable with it and respect that.
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May 18, 2014, 04:17 AM
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I have heard of many people doing this and their T's being okay with it.
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May 18, 2014, 05:33 AM
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Maybe I'm not giving the best advice, but his photo may be online. (I don't mean Facebook stalking--sometimes T's professional profile online has a pic. I have 2 adorable selfies I found of main T on his own website. He is actually stroking his chin/beard in one shot--seems hilariously tongue in cheek)
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#5
May 18, 2014, 07:45 AM
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Before my few weeks break in therapy, my T was thinking what could be done to help me stayed connected. She asked if having her picture could help me but of course I said that if I need it, I can always find it online
 She agreed and we moved on, but I guess it means that she would be willing to give/send me her picture if I wanted, so maybe it also wouldn't be so big problem for your T?
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May 18, 2014, 08:31 AM
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I have bunches of pictures of my t and i together. I think its totally ok to ask.
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May 18, 2014, 09:25 AM
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Asking is fine, though he might be not OK with it- I personally can't see any reason for why not but ppl (Ts included) are surprisingly different.
Yes, most Ts have a pic on their websites- I vaguely remember my T has one/two- a selfie and something with him standing on a cliff? I do remember I was like WTF? If I'd seen it before I saw him, I probably wouldn't have contacted him in- overtly dramatic in my book. 
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May 18, 2014, 10:34 AM
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My T let me take photos of her but every T is different. It can't hurt to ask! BTW, are you the same wysteria from way back? If so, it's nice to "see" you again.
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May 18, 2014, 10:57 AM
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T let me have a stuffed animal moose out of his office to keep to remind me of our relationship and his care. i named it moosolini. i sleep with it. one time he was at my house and i was really psychotic and he tucked me in and said "heres this little guy" and put moosolini beside me. hes sweet
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May 18, 2014, 11:49 AM
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I very much wish I had asked my T if I could take a pic of both of us in her office before she moved. Sigh. I do sometimes look at her profile pic on psychologytoday.com when I'm doing my inner work between phone sessions, kinda feels like she's 'there' helping me.
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#11
May 18, 2014, 12:08 PM
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Quote:
Gentle hugs, -WB
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